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It’s Friday! Let’s Fck Some Sht Up Together!

Happy Friday, lovely! It’s time to fuck some shit up!

Twice a month, in accordance with the lunar cycles, we gather in circle here and in your inbox for a salaciously good time. We talk sex, self-care, and reclaiming what has always been ours via ritualized practices and hexing shitty politicians. And for my entrepreneurial babes out there, you’re getting a little bonus sales tip, too.

Why? Because I want to combine everything in my varied background into one place to offer my highest and greatest good to you. Take what resonates. Leave the rest.

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🔥 SEX – In this segment, I hand you a little tip to keep your sexual health in line or spice up your bedroom. Why? Because I sold sex toys for 12 years and received training from some of the best sexologists in the world. Any products mentioned are available HERE.

Do you know your own body? What turns you on, where (and how) you like to be touched, what you don’t find pleasurable, etc?

Or do you approach an intimate experience with a partner from the standpoint of them either knowing or not knowing how to please you without having that information yourself?

Often, because of the socialization we receive — specifically for those of us socialized as women — we’ve been taught to distance ourselves from (and even dissociate from) our bodies to the point that we make it our partners’ job to find out what works for us.

And when we place those kinds of expectations on our partners without having the baseline knowledge for ourselves, we can easily get caught up in blaming our partners for our lack of pleasure, accusing them of being universally “bad in bed.” Or the reverse — assuming we’ll never experience the heights of pleasure like we did with that one magical person because we attribute all the glory to their skill and talent.

But the reality is that it’s YOUR job to know what works for you. And what doesn’t. And it’s YOUR job to communicate with your partner to let them know what you know.

If you don’t know your own body, my homework for you for the next two weeks is to engage in some self-exploration. That can look like masturbation, but it doesn’t have to. It can also include exploring self-touch while showering, putting on lotion, getting dressed, and going through your skincare routine.

What feels good to you? What speed, type of motion, and pressure do you find most pleasurable?

Make note of this information and take it into the bedroom with you. You might just find that your experience is heightened because of it!🔥

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💖 SELF-CARE – In this segment, I combine my background as a massage therapist with my training as a coach to offer you tips for physical, mental, and emotional well-being. My personal recommendation for physical movement is the Pilates-based mat work offered by Tandy Gutierrez. Not only has Tandy’s work helped me navigate living in an auto-immune body, but over the years, this has helped me more than anything else to heal my nervous system. Check out her Unicorn Wellness Studio HERE.

Have you ever had acupuncture?

My partner and I celebrated our 13-year anniversary by getting acupuncture together on New Year’s Day. It was a first for both of us. (Well, technically, I had gotten acupuncture once. From a chiropractor who I’m pretty sure took a weekend training. And I definitely don’t think that counts. This was not that.)

It was a fascinating experience!

While we certainly had different experiences, we both felt tingles, aches, releases, so much relaxation, and waves of sensation.

And though I’m not entirely sure how she felt the rest of the day, I felt high AF for several hours! It. Was. Wild.

This particular acupuncturist only works with the head, so we had needles in our ears, the tops of our heads, and one each in the middle of our foreheads. But trust me when I say that was plenty for a full-body experience.

I’m on the waitlist for a different acupuncturist who uses needles throughout the body, so I’ll for sure report back on how those experiences differ.

My purpose in sharing this with you is twofold:
1. I genuinely want to know if you’ve received acupuncture and, if so, what your experience was like.
2. To build upon the sex tip above and encourage you to explore your body in new ways, to discover what your body responds well to and what it doesn’t. (And as a bonus tip: things like couples’ massages, couples’ floats, and couples’ acupuncture totally exist.)

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💸 SALES – Again, I sold sex toys for 12 years. In the direct sales industry. I was fucking good at it. I earned a ton of incentives. And I trained hundreds of other women how to do the same thing. Now, I’ve taken my experience from that career, my experience with a brick-and-mortar massage practice with massage membership sales, and from building my coaching practice to develop a sales and business membership community to help other entrepreneurs redefine their relationship to sales, systems, and strategy so they can grow in a sustainable way. In this segment, I’m offering all my entrepreneurial love bugs a sales tip. Skip this part if it doesn’t apply to you. And if it does? Email or DM me, and I’ll send you my free 7-day course to find and hone your authentic sales voice.

What systems do you have in place for your business?

Do they support you in doing what you want to do with your business — including taking time off? Or do they cause you stress and overwhelm? (Possibly because you don’t follow them. Or don’t even have systems set up.)

Let’s back up a tick. Do you even know what systems your business needs?

A lot of entrepreneurial folks (especially solopreneurs, I’ve found) seem allergic to the concept of systems. They think if they set up a system for something, it’ll box them in, and they’ll lose all their freedom.

But here’s what’s actually true: Without systems, you’re constantly recreating shit that could be done once. Just once.

Without systems, you’re forever figuring out HOW to do something that can run its own or that you just have to fill in pieces here and there.

Without systems, you’re continually “busy” without actually getting anything done.

When you have effective, efficient systems in place, you know what needs to be done when and how to do it. Because you’ve decided ahead of time what that needs to look like.

And it can be overwhelming AF to consider setting up all of your systems from scratch.

That’s why I’m creating a Systems Skeleton to include in the 6-Week Systems Soirée held within the SellingU community.

Doors for SellingU don’t open until the spring, but if this sounds like something you need, reply to this email and tell me. I’ll put you on the shortlist for entry. 💸

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✨ SPELL – Because this newsletter is sent out in conjunction with the lunar cycles, this segment offers you a moon ritual. Prior to all the stuff listed above, I studied art history as a way to develop an understanding of world religions. Since childhood, I’ve been on a spiritual journey to develop my own relationship to the divine. In no way do I have any interest in telling you what to believe or not believe. That’s for you. It’s personal. And for me, it’s cyclical. My spiritual practices have changed my relationship to time in such a beautiful way that I want to offer you a bit of that shift here by recognizing the cycles of the moon in order to hand you an opportunity to incorporate cyclical time into your experience of life. I work with many spiritual mentors, and ritualized practices are incorporated into the foundation of Project Reclamation—my equity-centered membership community—as well as the Reclamation Weekend retreats I host. And when you joined this email list, you received a Reclamation ritual from me. Again, I don’t care what you believe in or don’t believe in. Paying attention to the moon will help repair your relationship with time, which capitalism has fucked up for all of us. If you’d like to dive deeper into esoteric spirituality, I recommend checking out the Magical Mentoring program offered by Tandy, who I mentioned in blue above, for her Pilates work. That info is HERE.

Across time and culture, the moon has often represented our inner world of emotional connection, spiritual journey, and relationship to self. Aligning myself with the cycles of the moon has offered me the added bonus of shifting my relationship with time. When we allow ourselves the space for rest and renewal, rather than keeping ourselves stuck in the constant hustle & grind mentality of late-stage capitalism, our perspectives on what’s influential, what’s valuable, and what’s worthy of our energy have space to become deeper and more personal.

This week, I’m offering you a new moon ritual to hand you a little piece of that.

This doesn’t have to take a long time. The idea is to be present with yourself and focused on your full experience during the ritual. Pay attention to the sensations you feel during the ritual and make note of them afterward. I’d love to hear about your experience if you’d like to share!

NEW MOON RITUAL

The new moon is an excellent time to focus on what you want to create, achieve, or accomplish. You can get fancy with your rituals, and if you’re into altar work, crystal work, or any other kind of spiritual work, please feel free to incorporate it. Personally, I like to keep things simple.

Supplies: paper, pen, glass of water that you’ll drink

Steps:

Take a few minutes and ground yourself, whatever that means to you – whether that’s a few deep breaths, listening to a guided meditation, washing your face, putting your feet in the grass, masturbating, or anything else.
Write out what it is you want to create, achieve, or accomplish. This can be big or small. It can be for the lunar cycle beginning with this new moon, the next six months, the next calendar year, or a lifelong dream.
Read what you’ve written—out loud—over your glass of water. Then drink the water.

The new moon isn’t until next Thursday, and I considered holding this week’s FSU Fridays newsletter off until next week so it would be closer to the new moon. But truly, I wanted to say hello and wish you a happy new year. It felt a little off-brand to NOT do that. (And by off-brand, I mean for ME, not just for my company. It felt inauthentic. I want to celebrate with you and wish you happiness and goodness for every single reason, so to skip a major fucking opportunity for that seemed…not me.)

So here we are, hanging out in your inbox nearly a full week before the new moon.

If this week has seemed a little slow for you, and you expected yourself to hit the ground running in the new year, consider this week and next week as your runway. Let YOUR new year begin on Thursday, January 11, with the new moon. And use the next few days to get clear on what it is you want to offer yourself in 2024.

✨What do you want to initiate with the beginning of the new year?
✨Where do you want it to go?
✨What do you want to create, build, grow, or accomplish?
✨And what are the first steps to do that?

Write all that shit out and use it for your New Moon Ritual next Thursday.

Make that your New Year Ritual.

And so we begin… ✨

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✊ STATECRAFT – Politics is a not-so-secret passion of mine. I used to run a couple of political organizations here in Kansas City and lobby at the state level in Missouri with Planned Parenthood. The 2016 election is what led me into coaching after I lost my mind and a therapist told me I had “excellent coping skills” because I was focusing all my time and energy on political volunteerism. And in this segment, we might get a little petty. But we’ll always be aiming to reclaim our power from the cis-heteronormative, puritanical, white supremacist patriarchy we currently live under in this hellscape of climate change and late-stage capitalism. Here, I’ll offer suggestions on candidates to donate to, people to follow, podcasts to subscribe to, and answer the question of WHO ARE WE HEXING? (Josh Hawley is always on that list.)

We’re just going to start the year off strong by hexing Trump.

Because obviously.

For all of the reasons.

Maybe together, we can help ensure the Supreme Court upholds the state decisions to keep him off their primary ballots. (Because, ya know, “states’ rights” and shit. 🙄)

*This segment is not intended to promote harm to anyone in any way. I don’t hex people in real life. ✊

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That’s it for this week, lovely! I appreciate you offering me space in your day. And I look forward to seeing you fuck some shit up today! ❤️‍🔥

-xoxo-

Keli

P.S. I want to invite you to Project Reclamation, a private, equitable, self-coaching community, to explore the most expansive version of yourself. Inside, you’ll receive tools for nervous system regulation, emotional processing, and cognitive self-coaching. Plus, you’ll have access to Master Certified Coaches to receive written coaching as well as live coaching via group calls. And you’ll be able to join in on an integrated book club, as well as both virtual and in-person community celebrations.

Maybe life coaching has felt out of reach for you in the past, as it’s often relegated to those hoarding enough wealth to be bored. But self-discovery doesn’t actually come in Tiffany boxes, and it is my goal to make healing and growth accessible to everyone.

Inside this space, we’re committed to reclaiming our bodies, our time, our joy, and our lives from all the cultural conditioning that has left us feeling less than. And we’re doing it in a vibrant, supportive community that is truly open to everyone who shares these values. (Though cis-het white Christian men may struggle a bit.)

Registration is now open, so click the link to join. See you on the inside!

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Reclaiming Time

We’ve reflected. We’re resting. And now it’s a new year!

So let’s talk about how you’re not gonna fuck yourself over this year by giving away all your time, and instead, you’re gonna reclaim your time for your damn self. Shall we?

This week, I’m offering you another free resource. In the Reclaiming Time workbook, you’ll do a calendar refresh that will allow you to create a schedule for yourself that is truly FOR yourself.

Before we get there, though, if you haven’t downloaded and worked through the Cyclical Reflection Ritual I offered a couple of weeks ago in the Reclaiming Reflection workbook, I highly recommend doing that before applying anything to your calendar.

Why?

Because it’s beneficial to ensure the celebrations and lessons from the previous cycle come along for the next cycle.

Rather than looking at the upcoming cycle — and in this particular moment, that means this new year — as an entirely new beginning or a fresh start, where you're starting from scratch and pretending nothing matters that came before, looking at how far you’ve come and deciding what to take with you into the next cycle allows you to build on what you’ve learned.

This creates a solid foundation upon which to stand and move forward.

From the perspective of determining what went well, what didn’t go so well (and what you’ve learned from it), as well as what you’d like to stop, start, and continue, you can fill your calendar in a way that’s supportive to you, rather than overwhelming.

Putting things in your calendar will happen in phases. The first phase is your personal life.

I know, your career is important. Your education is important. And your business is important. What I also know is that starting with those things leads you to fill your calendar up with no regard to the pieces of your life that you do those things FOR. Your reasons for the career/education/business. Your ultimate, big picture, “WHY” of your professional life. So you then scramble to fit in the birthdays and vacations and doctor’s appointments, adding to your already high stress level.

So instead, we’re starting with your personal life. We’re prioritizing the things you say are your “WHY” for your career/education/business.

That shit goes on the calendar first. So that your work can fit into your life, rather than your life fitting into your work.

Access your Reclaiming Time workbook at www.KeliLynJewel.com/time.

When starting your calendar with your personal life, you’re gonna get into allll the little nitty gritty details that often get overlooked to help your lived experience feel more expansive and less rushed.

The first things that go on your calendar are holidays, regularly scheduled travel (AND time to pack and prep for said travel, including any services you like to receive [mani/pedi, blowout, wax, etc], PLUS recovery time after travel, including those services [chiro, massage, acupuncture, etc]), regularly scheduled guest visits (also including time to clean, shop, and prep, as well as recovery time after the guests leave), planned vacations (again with the prep time and recovery time), birthdays (including your own), regularly scheduled appointments (that dentist appointment happens every 6 months, so don’t let it be a surprise…but also, get your other appointments booked — medical, self-care, family meetings, kids’ stuff, pets’ stuff), non-holiday and non-birthday family events, kids’ school events, and any other personal items that need to be listed but don’t fall into those categories.

BONUS TIP: If you’re into color coding, use the same color for all your personal items or two colors, one for your items and the other for family items. This helps your personal life stand out on your calendar so that you see your “WHY” very clearly.

So that you see YOU on your calendar and not just everyone and everything else.

AFTER — and only after — all of the planned and regularly occurring personal items are on your calendar, you’ll move on to planned and regularly occurring work: regularly scheduled meetings, planned events (including prep and recovery time for those planned events), client/student facing work, marketing time/content creation time/writing/research, sales calls/messages/presentations/lectures, administrative tasks, planning, networking, and other planned and regularly occurring work items that don’t fit into any of those categories.

And if you’re color coding, make it make sense for yourself. Maybe BTS time is one color, and public-facing things are another color, or maybe this kind of work stuff is all the same color. But use a different color than your personal items, so you can visually see the difference and recognize the lie when your brain inevitably tells you that all you do is work and never have time for what you want to be doing.

We’re solving for that. Make sure you can see it.

With your personal life and regular work stuff on your calendar, THEN you can effectively look at the possibility of launching something new in a way that allows spaciousness and honors your capacity. You can look at what it will take, how it will fit into your schedule, and decide what you’re committed to and not from an informed place that allows for the practicality of daily life rather than trying to cram too much into tight spaces and leading yourself into burnout.

In order to create appropriate space on your calendar, the Reclaiming Time workbook will walk you through key dates and timelines: when the doors open, publication deadlines, cart opening and closing, pre-registration bonus deadlines, and what materials you’ll need to create. I also suggest a 12-week launch period, with 4 weeks of planning added in, so nothing is rushed and everything has time to unfold, and the workbook offers you some tips on what to include in that timeline — ideas on pieces to add to your launch process, as well as support systems to put in place for yourself with regard to your own wellbeing to ensure you show up to the work in a way that facilitates sustainability.

On the personal side, I’d like to invite you into Project Reclamation. We’re an equitable self-coaching built on the concepts of nervous system regulation, emotional processing, and cognitively shifting the oppressive narratives we’ve been handed. We would love to welcome you into our community. Sign up today at www.KeliLynJewel.com/reclamation.

And for business support, check out SellingU. The community membership offers structured curriculum on sales, systems, and building a sustainable business, as well as group support and coaching. The mastermind includes community membership PLUS 1:1 support, strategy, and more hands-on work with me, including in-person work. It’s mindset AND practical application, with a built-in network. www.KeliLynJewel.com/SellingU.

Whichever direction you choose, or if you’re just here for the free content, I’d love to know how the process of Reclaiming Time has felt for you and what you’re looking forward to most in the new year. Tag me in your process, and let me know!

Thank you for allowing me the honor of sharing my calendar method with you. It has worked for me for well over a decade, and it’s a process I’ve seen benefit countless folks I’ve trained, mentored, and coached. And now, I’m delighted to offer it to you.

www.KeliLynJewel.com/time

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Reclaiming Rest

I challenge you to a NAP! EN-GARDE!

I challenge you to a NAP!

EN-GARDE! ⚔️ 💤 🛌 😴

Most challenges will push you into a hustle-and-grind kind of space. NOT THIS ONE! This is a challenge to rest.

I’m calling it a nap challenge, but truly, I don’t give the slightest fuck whether or not you actually fall asleep. I’m simply challenging you to step away from the hustle and grind, get your body into a comfortable position, shut out the visual stimulation, either turn off auditory stimulation or transition to something meditative and relaxing, and truly rest.

Take a nap — or at least provide your body and mind with the opportunity for a nap — for at least 15 minutes a day for 30 days.

Why 15 minutes? Because it’ll probably take about 5 minutes for you to get into a space of relaxation. And 10 minutes is enough to offer a bit of recovery from the daily stresses we all endure. Also because 15 minutes is a small enough chunk of time that most of us can fit that in somewhere. Your nap does not have to be 3 hours long to count. (Though I’m not discouraging that! If you’ve got the time available to you and you need to rest, TAKE IT!)

This 30-Day Nap Challenge begins Tuesday, January 2. I’ll be documenting my naps daily in my Instagram stories, so I’d love for you to follow along with me there and let me know how your progress is going.

And, for those of you who are into it, I made you a workbook to document your own experience!

Access our free 30-Day Nap Challenge guide at www.KeliLynJewel.com/rest

In the workbook, you’ll have a full page for each day. That doesn’t mean you need to use the entire page each day, but the space is available to you should you need or want it.

This challenge is ultimately about space — how much space you allow yourself to take up in your own life FOR yourself. And we’re focusing on rest because that’s the thing I have found in my decades of work (first as a massage therapist, then in the direct sales industry, and now as a coach) that tends to fall away first. We fill that space with other things and burn ourselves out.

This is not to say that systems of oppression don’t contribute to burnout and it’s all about personal responsibility. Of course they do. And of course it isn’t. However, when we devalue rest in our lives, we amplify the systemic issues within our individual selves. And one of the most revolutionary acts we can take is to reclaim our own rest.

We’re reclaiming autonomy over our time, our bodies, and our well-being while disrupting the cycle of exploitation. It is an act of defiance against oppression to take a fucking nap.

If you’d like to join me in napping for 30 days, your downloadable guide will walk you through a few prep questions for your own clarity, helping you solidify why you’ve accepted the challenge, what you hope to take away from it, and creating a plan to ensure you’re supported in the challenge — deciding where and when you’ll rest, acknowledging what may stand in the way, and creating a support system to deal with those blocks while still honoring your commitment to your rest.

Each day, you’ll then have space to note where and when you’re napping, whether or not you fell asleep, how you feel before and after, and anything else you notice.

Then at the end of the 30 days, you’ll have an opportunity to reflect on the experience, noting how many days you actually rested and for what length of time, how many of those days you fell asleep, how you feel after the entirety of the challenge, and considering whether or not intentionally setting aside time to rest during the day is something you’d like to incorporate into your daily life.

I’d love to hear about your experiences during this 30-Day Nap Challenge. Make sure you’re following me on Instagram @Keli.Lyn.Jewel and let me know how it goes for you!

For more resources on rest as revolution and decoupling from the exploitative nature of our current sociological structures, I recommend the following books:

Rest is Resistance: A Manifesto by Tricia Hersey

Laziness Does Not Exist by Devon Price, PhD

Wintering by Katherine May

These books have been part of the integrated book club inside Project Reclamation. So if you’re into that kind of thing, check out our equitable self-coaching community at www.KeliLynJewel.com/reclamation.

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It’s Friday! Let’s Fck Some Sht Up Together!

Happy Friday, lovely! It’s time to fuck some shit up!

Why? Because I want to combine everything in my varied background into one place to offer my highest and greatest good to you. Take what resonates. Leave the rest.

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Sex can be a really challenging topic for a lot of individuals. Get into a relationship, and that only magnifies the challenges for everyone involved. Whether you have one or multiple partners, those conversations can be fraught and full of anxiety.

One of the biggest benefits I found to the purchase of a sex toy — be it a vibrator, a feather tickler, or a simple blindfold — over the course of my 12-year previous career selling them was that the object can provide an opening for communication.

When you bring an object into the sexual experience, it gives you something specific to talk ABOUT rather than talking about the big, scary topic of sex. “We’re not talking about ME right now. We’re not talking about MY sexuality. We’re not talking about YOU right now. We’re not talking about YOUR sexuality. We’re talking about this thing right here that is neither me nor you and is separate from us both.”

So if you and your partner(s) are struggling to communicate openly about sex, try bringing a new item into the bedroom. Talk about the thing. And see where the conversation goes. 🔥

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It’s the end of the year. Pretty soon, everyone and everything is going to be shouting at you to set your goals, get on track, heighten your productivity, and GO GO GO.

I’d like to offer you an alternative. Starting January 2, I’m running a 30-Day Nap Challenge.

That’s right. I’m challenging you to take a fucking nap every day for a month.

This will take place mostly in my Instagram stories. So if you’re not following me on IG, go ahead and do that. It’ll be worth your while. There may be prizes for participating. 💝 www.instagram.com/Keli.Lyn.Jewel/

And I’ve made you a guide to take notice of how you feel throughout the month. So if you’re a free workbook fiend like me, get that here: www.KeliLynJewel.com/rest

More details will land in your inbox next Wednesday, and you’ll hear about it on my podcast next week, as well. But because you’re here, you get a heads-up. 😘 💖

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In case you missed it this week, I sent out another free resource that you want to take advantage of. It’s a reflection guide.

Why did I send this out?

Because the new year is always an excellent time to reflect on what’s gotten us to the proverbial here so that we can evaluate what’s working and what’s not and decide how we want to get to the proverbial there.

But the problem we face is multifaceted: we don’t know the right questions to ask, we’re not sure what to take into account for moving forward, and we always start our reflections with what sucks (or we do the opposite and refuse to look at what sucks) so we don’t have a clear picture of ANYTHING and can’t create a worthwhile plan for what’s next.

The solution? Go through the Reclaiming Reflection workbook at www.KeliLynJewel.com/reflection. It’ll help you work with your brain to reflect appropriately upon what got you here. And it’ll help you evaluate what it looks like to effectively move forward toward there. 💸

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This week, I’m offering you a full moon ritual to hand you a little piece of that.

FULL MOON RITUAL

The full moon is an excellent time to release anything you’ve been holding onto. And this can mean one of two things! Either you’ve been clinging to something that isn’t serving you, and you’re releasing your grip. Or you’ve been working toward creating something that you’re now ready to release into the world. Whichever option resonates most with you, that’s where to focus your energy for this ritual.

Supplies: paper, pen, candle, some sort of non-flammable receptacle (actual cauldron, metal, glass, or ceramic bowl or pot, fire pit outside, the base of a grill — you’re gonna burn some shit up so you want something to let it burn in that’s not going to cause any damage to anything)

Steps:

Take a few minutes and ground yourself, whatever that means to you – whether that’s a few deep breaths, listening to a guided meditation, washing your face, putting your feet in the grass, masturbating, or anything else. Then light your candle.
Write out what it is that you’d like to release. If this is something you’ve been clinging to that isn’t serving you, and you’re releasing your grip on it, fold the paper in half AWAY from your body. If it’s something you’ve been working on and are releasing into the world, fold the paper in half TOWARD your body.
Light the paper on fire and let it burn in your non-flammable receptacle.

BONUS: If you want to mix the burnt ashes with salt and/or offer them back to the earth by sprinkling them around outside or burying them under the moon, go for it!

If you follow astrology, you may know that the upcoming full moon on Tuesday, December 26, is in Cancer. That might make it extra emotional. And you can check where Cancer falls in your natal chart to see what part of your life may be impacted most intensely.

And even if you don’t follow astrology, this full moon is happening just a few days after the winter solstice (in the northern hemisphere, where I live; summer solstice in the southern hemisphere).

Between the solstice and the Gregorian New Year, this full moon is a beautiful opportunity for ritual. (Even without considering the emotional Cancerian energy.)

Regardless of whether you’re in business for yourself or not, I encourage you to use the Reclaiming Reflection workbook that I sent out earlier this week (and referenced in the Sales section above) to use in your full moon ritual. Link for easy access: www.KeliLynJewel.com/reflection. ✨

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Ken Paxton is the recipient of our collective hexing today.

Think you don’t know who he is?

Sure you do. He’s the Texas AG. The fucker who petitioned the TX supreme court to strike down the temporary restraining order in Travis County that would have allowed Kate Cox to get an abortion after a diagnosis sent her to the emergency room on multiple occasions.

She has left Texas to get the medical care she needs, but not everyone has the means for such extreme measures. And no one should be forced into such extremes.

Abortion is medical care. Period. And Ken Paxton has no business serving in the position he holds. Hex the shit out of him!

*This segment is not intended to promote harm to anyone in any way. I don’t hex people in real life. ✊

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That’s it for this week, lovely! I appreciate you offering me space in your day. And I look forward to seeing you fuck some shit up today! ❤️‍🔥

-xoxo-

Keli

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Reclaiming Reflection

We are about to endure the onslaught of “NEW YEAR NEW YOU” bullshit. And I’d love to offer you an alternative.

You, my darling love bug, are not going to be a different person on January 1 than you are on December 31. And you’re not going to be a different person on January 2 than you are on January 1. You’re not even going to be a different person in January than you are TODAY.

You will, in fact, be the same person. And if that’s disappointing news to you, I’m so sorry to be the truth bearer today.

But you don’t HAVE to be an entirely new person — at any point — in order to grow into your favorite version of yourself.

Over the next few weeks, I’m giving you some presents. This week, it’s a guidebook for Reclaiming Reflection. It’s a way to allow us to take back the concept of reflection from the traditional way of looking back that only focuses on the shitty pieces, with the idea that doing so will somehow propel us into massive overnight transformation.

That shit doesn’t work.

At any transition point, it can be helpful to reflect upon what happened in order to move forward strategically. But there’s a way to do it that actually makes it meaningful and beneficial, rather than just feeling like everything is wrong, and the only way to fix it is to become someone new TOMORROW.

I call it Cyclical Reflection, to leave it open for seasonal changes, new years, business launches, lunar cycles, menstrual cycles, birthdays, and any other cycles or transitional moments you want to honor within the context of your life.

You can access your free Reclaiming Reflection guidebook at www.KeliLynJewel.com/reflection.

Go through the steps. Follow the prompts. And let me know how the process goes for you! Tag me on TikTok or Instagram @Keli.Lyn.Jewel.

Again, reflection is vital to move forward strategically. However, when we reflect, in order to provide an accurate representation of what happened, it’s crucial to examine what went well AND WHY so that we can repeat and build on it. It’s equally as valuable to examine what didn’t go well AND WHY so that we can make objective decisions about what to change.

From this reflection, in the free Reclaiming Reflection guide, we’ll use what you notice to shift into future-focused work to develop specific goals and set up strategic plans. And we’ll make sure it all works for you. Because your business should fit into your life, not the other way around. (Even if you’re not an entrepreneur, this applies to you. Your “business” may be a job working for someone else. It may be volunteer activism. It may be a focus on your health. It all applies.)

As we embark on this reflection journey, we’re intentionally starting with victories. As humans, we’re hardwired with a negativity bias. This means we tend to discount the positive aspects of our lives and businesses and more easily focus on the negative aspects. But that gives us neither a clear nor an accurate picture.

Focusing just on the wins without a realistic approach toward what didn’t go as well as we would have liked is equally useless. Because, again, it’s neither clear nor accurate.

And without a clear and accurate viewpoint, we don’t know what we’ve actually created and how. So we can’t build on what’s working. And we can’t correct what isn’t.

We need the clarity, and we need the accuracy. So we need to see both the victories and the challenges. Not just one or the other.

With clarity and accuracy, we can make valuable decisions, set attainable goals, and create strategic plans to get there. Without it, we’re just flailing about, leaving the results of our business up to our clients/audience/the general public and our family/friends/other personal responsibilities. Then we wonder why we haven’t gotten where we want to and begin to resent our business.

That all feels like shit. So instead, we reflect.

In the gift I’m offering you, my Reclaiming Reflection guide, we’ll look at victories 1st: main accomplishments and milestones reached, standout successes and positive feedback received, innovative strategies implemented, projects completed, successful partnerships and collaborations.

Then and only then, we’ll move on through the challenges of the last cycle: unexpected external obstacles, how you responded/reacted to the obstacle and how you overcame it, mistakes and setbacks, lessons you learned along the way and how you’ll take those lessons into the next cycle.

From there, we’ll move on to your personal development over the last cycle.

We want resilience. We want sustainability. We want progress.

In order to build resilience in moving toward your goals, you must be resilient yourself. In order for your action plan to be sustainable, you have to set up the systems and establish the boundaries for sustainability in your life. And progress? Well, your progress toward your goals is going to come from your own growth and development.

Your business will grow at the same rate you do. So the next section focuses on your personal growth over the last cycle: what skills you’ve learned, what strengths you’ve discovered, notable opportunities for change, capacity limitations you’ve discovered and how you want to plan for them in the next cycle, the growth you’re currently avoiding or resisting (and why…and what you would need to have in place to support you in that growth).

You’ll then go through a sustainability assessment which is based on concepts from the tarot. If you’re into that kind of thing, it’ll be totally your vibe. If you’re not, you wouldn’t have even known if I didn’t tell you just now. But it’s an assessment of certain areas of your life (expanded from the pentacles), where they are and where you’d like them to be, on a scale of 1-10, WITHOUT 10 being “the best.” Because maximum capacity in every area is not sustainable, and truly, max capacity in any area generally means something else is lacking.

After the assessment, you’ll go through an exercise I call Stop, Start, Continue. Why is it called that? Because you’re deciding what you’ll stop doing, start doing (or start doing differently), and continue doing exactly as you have.

Why make this a cyclical ritual?

When we ritualize practices, we up the ante for our brains. They become more important and meaningful than a boring routine. They become infused with a level of emotionality and connection that’s not possible when a practice is, instead, rote and monotonous.

That’s not to say that monotonous routines are bad. They’re not! They’re just different. Creating a ritualized practice out of reflecting on the past in order to move forward allows a focused intentionality to set up a solid foundation for moving forward.

And doing so in a cyclical fashion gives you the agency to define the cycles you want to adhere to. Whether you want to stick to the common annual reflections of new years, you want to tap into nature with seasonal reflections or lunar cycles, or you want to make it super personal with menstrual cycles and birthdays, you get to decide which cycles to honor with this ritual.

I encourage you to print your Reclaiming Reflection workbook and use the label at the top to identify which cycle you’re reflecting upon so that you can use it as documentation of your growth. And I’d love to cheer you on in your progress! Tag me on social and let me know how it’s going for you, which cycles you’re honoring, and how you’re celebrating your growth!

For ongoing support via master-certified coaches (including myself) and a supportive community of others journeying toward reclaiming various aspects of themselves and their lives, I’d like to invite you to join us inside Project Reclamation.

We’re an equitable self-coaching community built on the concepts of nervous system regulation, emotional processing, and cognitively shifting the oppressive narratives we’ve been handed. We would love to welcome you into our community.

Keli Jackson 12/13/23 Keli Jackson 12/13/23

Reclaiming Healing

Everyone’s talking about HEALING…

HEAL THYSELF!

One must be HEALED to move forward!

If you don’t HEAL, you’ll stay stuck in the past…FOREVERRRRRRRR!!!

Ugh! 🙄

Everyone’s talking about HEALING — childhood trauma, relationship trauma, ANCESTRAL trauma, fucking PAST LIFE trauma! “I’m healing my ancestral money wounds for my grandmother who couldn’t get out of poverty,” and such.

No shade to any actual healing. Truly. That last one is something that someone I deeply respect said to me recently. And it’s valuable. BUT, like, what the fuck does healing even mean? And how does one HEAL?

This is the shit that’s always missing from the big, bold statements that claim to have all the magic answers. The meaning. The how. 🙄 Clearly, I’m feeling very eye-rolley today. 😂 I’m just SO sick of bullshit marketing that may or may not have substance to back itself up.

Here’s what I’ve learned over the course of the past MANY years of working with various healing modalities and hiring a plethora of healing practitioners:

It all works. It won’t all work for YOU.
Healing is not linear. You’ll zig, and you’ll zag. You’ll spiral. And you’ll feel completely lost at times. That doesn’t mean you’ve somehow unhealed whatever wound or trauma you’re working through.
Healing is not one-and-done. There is no quick fix. It’s deep exploration and an ongoing process.
You do not have to be HEALED in order to move forward — in your life, in your relationships, in your business, in your career, or in whatever else you’re trying to move forward in. Which is excellent news! Because we’d be super fucked due to #3 if forward motion required complete healing.
It’s a lonely and isolating process. Which means community is absolutely essential. You need support around you. That can look like many things. But just because healing your shit is an inside job that can only be done on your own doesn’t mean it’s best to go it alone. Surround yourself with support — therapist, coach, energy worker, friends, body worker, any combination of that and whatever else you find helpful.

With all of the talk about HEALING these days, though, let’s also acknowledge that there are many ways to say the same thing.

Spiritual journeying, personal development, personal growth, self-love, self-compassion, compassion (in general), radical compassion, self-acceptance, acceptance (in general), radical acceptance, neutrality…I could go on.

These words are everywhere. And it’s all just different language to say the same thing.

This applies to so many aspects of our culture — our global culture. Whether scientific, spiritual, or philosophical, we’re all using different language to try to get to the same place of understanding what it means to be human in this time.

How we relate to our surroundings, how we relate to one another, and how we relate to ourselves.

And it’s the “how we relate to ourselves” bit that the vocab list above relates to. It’s what HEALING relates to.

Depending on the language that resonates most with you, you’ll seek out different practitioners, different thought leaders, and different methodologies with different tools.

But it’s all designed to lead you back to yourself for inner expansion. And in most cases, that forms the foundation for outward expansion. Because we can only hold for others what we’re willing to hold for ourselves.

This is not to say that cult leaders with ulterior motives don’t exist. Of course they do. But, like, don’t join a cult. Please. You deserve to trust yourself over any kind of leader/guru/expert. And if you don’t trust yourself, I’d love to help you develop that. Seriously. I want you to trust yourself over even me. Please and thank you.

But, again, it’s the “how” that's always missing.

How does one develop self-compassion, self-love, self-trust, journey inward, and heal oneself?

Here’s why that “how” is what’s always missing: there’s no universal answer. Every practitioner has a different methodology and set of tools. And even within that practitioner’s clientele, each person’s experience is vastly different.

It’s unique. It’s personal.

And often, it’s so gradual and subtle that you don’t even know “healing” or “growth” has occurred until you’re a bit further down the road and can look back with some perspective to see how far you’ve come.

So your own “how” may be difficult to define and put into words.

What pieces ARE pretty universal for the “how”?

Introspection.
Curiosity.
Compassion.

When we get introspective, sometimes that can seem a little like navel-gazing or selfishness. And we are socialized wildly against both. But introspection isn’t about self-aggrandizement or shutting everyone out. It’s about getting to know yourself, your core values and beliefs, and what’s true for you.

Curiosity layered into that introspection allows us to identify our needs, desires, and wounds objectively. So that we can address them fully, tend to ourselves, and flourish in deep connection.

And compassion? That’s the ultimate level-up. The objectivity available within curiosity paves the way toward compassion. Because it doesn’t leave room for judgment. And judgment is what holds us back from growth, healing, and connection.

When we judge ourselves for our past behaviors and decisions, we can’t heal what led to them. So we end up repeating the same patterns, making them more and more habituated. Often to the point where we genuinely believe that’s just who we ARE. Which just leads to more judgment, solidifying a cycle of perpetuation.

But through curiosity and compassion, we can examine the patterns and break the cycles. We can sift through what feels like muck and truly dust off, shedding the layers that have held us back, to move forward into the lives we choose rather than those we’re simply defaulting to via unconscious repetition.

The true magic, though? That comes in not trying to do all of this on your own. Yes, it’s inner work. But you can only see so much from the inside. Working with someone trained to hold a mirror up to you, allowing you to see from the outside, grants you exponential insight, allowing you to expand upon your own inner wisdom that much further.

And a community to support you through your journey? That only amplifies your progress.

These are the things I’d like to offer you inside of Project Reclamation. You get tools to use for your own introspection, to cultivate both curiosity and compassion — or what I call “compassionate curiosity”. You get guidance from master-certified coaches trained in a variety of modalities who will hold your mirror firmly and softly. And you get a community to provide you a safe place to land when you need it and celebration of every step along the way.

Join us. Reclaim growth. Reclaim healing. Reclaim you. For you. KeliLynJewel.com/reclamation

Keli Jackson 12/8/23 Keli Jackson 12/8/23

It’s Friday! Let’s Fck Some Sht Up Together!

Happy Friday, lovely! It’s time to fuck some shit up!

Why? Because I want to combine everything in my varied background into one place to offer my highest and greatest good to you. Take what resonates. Leave the rest.

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Acknowledge your previous experiences rather than brushing them under the rug or beating yourself up for them.

This used to come up ALL THE TIME in my 12-year previous career selling sex toys. And it comes up pretty commonly in calls with my coaching clients when we talk about sex. It has come up twice this week, so I thought I’d address it here. Because any time something comes up multiple times in a day or so, it tends to be a theme that’s helpful to address more broadly. (Yes, we can talk about sex. No, we don’t have to. For my 1:1 clients and in Project Reclamation, you decide what we coach on. Nothing is off limits, and you’re in charge.)

When we’re socialized as girls and women, we’re often shamed — in both big and small ways — for our sexuality. Of course, this is compounded for those of us under the queer umbrella, but it applies across the board.

We aren’t “supposed” to be sexual, and when we’re sexualized by others, we’re often blamed. When we ARE sexual, we’re slut-shamed by friends, family, religious groups… When we AREN’T sexual, we’re also shamed for that.

And there’s an undercurrent of waiting until you’ve found “the one,” implying that shutting ourselves off from our sexuality can suddenly be flipped backward like a light switch, making sex magical and wonderful, even though we’ve had a lifetime of conditioning to tell us otherwise.

But, unfortunately, that doesn’t fucking work. And it often leads us to either engage or disengage in ways that don’t quite feel right, that we aren’t sure about, and that we feel badly about later. And that’s not even touching all the ways sexual predators come into play, and we can be forced or coerced into things beyond our control.

Every sexual experience you’ve had leading up to this moment in time has had an impact on your relationship to sex, your own sexuality, and how you relate to sexual partners.

Acknowledging that as part of your truth can come with a host of emotions. And that can be uncomfortable. But so is disconnecting from your sex life or enduring physical or emotional pain during sex just because it’s what you’re “supposed” to do.

If you’re one of the multitudes of folks socialized as a woman who carries shame around sex, I want you to know that you’re not alone, and it’s actually quite common. Pretending that’s not the case for you when it is, or further shaming yourself FOR the shame because you believe it means there’s something wrong with you does not make it better. While acknowledging where you are can come with discomfort, that’s something that can be worked through. And ultimately, it leads to you having more agency over your sex life and reclaiming sex for yourself.

If that’s something you’d like to work through privately, please respond to this email, and we’ll talk about what it looks like to work with me as a 1:1 coach. And if we find that’s not the best fit, I’ll happily offer referrals for a sex coach or sex therapist. 🔥

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How’s your neck? Is it a little fucked? If you drive a lot, work at a computer, or are AT ALL engaged with what’s happening globally, I’m betting the answer to that is YES.

A few weeks ago, I sent out a neck stretch for you and today, we’re going to take that a little further with some gentle traction.

Tilt your head to the left. Place your left hand above your right ear and gently pull down while simultaneously pushing your head against your hand. Hold for up to 90 seconds.

Tilt your head to the right. Place your right hand above your left ear, gently pulling down while pressing your head into your hand. Hold for up to 90 seconds.

Repeat 3x a day.

This creates a small bit of traction in your neck, which can generate a lovely release. 💖

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Entrepreneurship is not for everyone. Full stop.

It’s not easy. It’s not glamorous. And it can be incredibly lonely.

Those who try to force themselves into the entrepreneurial box tend to burn themselves out and then beat themselves up. I’ve seen it over. And over. And over again.

Our society has pedestalized entrepreneurship as if it’s THE answer — to financial freedom, to career creativity, to…winning capitalism?

But more often than not, what I see is folks learning how to do a thing (massage, hair, makeup, web design, interior design, coaching…I could go on), receiving zero sales or business training, and being told to just “put themselves out there” as if magic will happen and clients will flock to them as soon as they decide they’re open for business.

When that doesn’t happen, they get more training, sign up for masterminds that do little more than ask questions like, “What if you DID know?!” and end up spinning their wheels. Sometimes they end up quitting. Sometimes they go into massive amounts of debt. And in all cases, they blame themselves.

But the problem is in how “business” is marketed. Learning how to do a thing does not mean you know how to sell that thing. It does not mean you know how to market that thing to lead to sales. It does not mean you know how to set up systems to ensure your business runs effectively. And it certainly does not grant you anyone to bounce ideas off of, to offer support, to offer leadership and experienced guidance.

That’s where SellingU comes in. Structured curriculum to develop your unique sales voice and generate a useful relationship with the concept of sales. Practical application. Hands-on practice. Built-in networking. Guidance from someone with nearly two decades of high-volume sales experience. (That’s me.) Weekly coaching and strategizing. Weekly co-working sessions. And literally so much more.

The doors open again in the spring, but if you’re into this kind of thing, reply to this email, and we’ll talk about what kind of support I can offer you before our new cohort begins.

You deserve to be well-resourced. You deserve to be well-supported. 💸

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This week, I’m offering you a new moon ritual to hand you a little piece of that.

NEW MOON RITUAL

Supplies: paper, pen, glass of water that you’ll drink

Steps:

Take a few minutes and ground yourself, whatever that means to you – whether that’s a few deep breaths, listening to a guided meditation, washing your face, putting your feet in the grass, masturbating, or anything else.
Write out what it is you want to create, achieve, or accomplish. This can be big or small. It can be for the lunar cycle beginning with this new moon, the next six months, the next calendar year, or a lifelong dream.
Read what you’ve written—out loud—over your glass of water. Then drink the water.

Tuesday, December 12, gives us our last new moon of 2023. So with this in mind, I encourage you to do the writing in the ritual from the perspective of what you want to initiate to support and nourish yourself through the holidays and as we transition into 2024. ✨

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Is there anyone more appropriate to hex this week than beloved gay icon George Santos? I mean, come on. This fucking guy.

I don’t know what his future plans are, but I imagine him with a podcast or second-rate television show, and I’d love to NOT see that come to fruition.

If there’s anyone who gives queers a bad name, it’s George Santos. Pretending to be straight is something we’ve all done for safety. And we love a messy bitch. But this? This is too much. And does not deserve to be rewarded with public support.

So hex away, my loves! He’s our target today.

*This segment is not intended to promote harm to anyone in any way. I don’t hex people in real life. ✊

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That’s it for this week, lovely! I appreciate you offering me space in your day. And I look forward to seeing you fuck some shit up today! ❤️‍🔥

-xoxo-

Keli

Registration is now open, so click the link to join. See you on the inside!

Keli Jackson 12/6/23 Keli Jackson 12/6/23

Reclaiming Relationships

What does the word “relationship” mean to you?

I don’t necessarily mean specifically intimate partnerships. We’re in relationship with everyone and everything in our lives, including the various aspects of ourselves.

What does the word “relationship” mean to you?

I don’t necessarily mean specifically intimate partnerships. We’re in relationship with everyone and everything in our lives, including the various aspects of ourselves.

But when you think of being “in relationship,” what comes to mind?

When you’re in a relationship with someone else – be it a romantic partner, a friend, a family member, or even a co-worker – is there a particular role that you tend to fulfill?

If so, where did that role come from? And do you like it?

I don’t want to skip over the self-relationship or any relationships you have with animals, inanimate objects (like your car, your clothes, etc), or concepts (like money, time, home, work, etc). But sometimes, the patterns we have in relationships are more easily seen when we look across the breadth of relationships we have with other people.

It can be beneficial to specifically focus on intimate partnerships, friendships, family, etc. But we’re going to keep it a little higher level today to explore where patterns may emerge wearing different costumes.

For example, if you tend to fulfill the role of caretaker in your relationships, that may look like taking on all the household chores and/or mental load of running the home for an intimate partnership, while in friendships, it may come out a little more like retreating when you need support but being the first to offer support when you know someone else is struggling.

In familial relationships, that role may look like planning all the holiday gatherings, while at work, it shows up as getting into the office first so you can be the one to make the coffee and taking notes in meetings for everyone.

And none of this is bad or wrong! If you tend to be in a caretaker role and you enjoy it, great! It can still be useful to examine it to ensure you’re also cared for and have boundaries in place for yourself.

But whatever role you tend to fulfill, if you’d like to shift it anywhere, that also requires examination. And often support. Which, going with this caretaker role, can be difficult to seek out and even more difficult to accept.

A lot goes into how we define “relationships” within our lives. And most of it is historical — developed socially over generations and handed to us without our consent.

The purpose of examining our definitions is to allow us to reclaim agency over how we define “relationships” so that we can choose to show up to them intentionally. Otherwise, we’re confined to predefined roles and expectations shaped by historical traditions, gender roles, and whatever bullshit we picked up from every relationship example we’ve had presented to us along the way.

By reclaiming our definition of “relationships,” and therefore our perception of our roles and how we show up to them, we open ourselves up to new possibilities to form deeper connections.

We create the space for authenticity – for ourselves. And when we show up as more authentic versions of ourselves, we give the people we’re in relationship with something different to respond to, which changes the relationship dynamic.

That can be scary to think about!

It can also be very freeing.

When we show up in our relationships as more authentic versions of ourselves, rather than the fulfiller of a habituated role bestowed upon us by socialization, we also give those we’re in relationship with permission to show up as more authentic versions of themselves.

Let me be clear. We never NEED permission from external sources to be authentic. Which means they don’t NEED your permission. But offering examples of authenticity generates internal permission by way of seeing something new, thereby creating concept expansion.

So “you give them permission” is really more of a short-hand for “you show them an example that they may interpret in a way to give themselves permission.”

Permission for authenticity is an inside job. It can only be granted by oneself. But until we see it enacted externally, it can be something we don’t even know EXISTS as a possibility. (Which is why representation matters in media. But that’s another topic for another day.)

Our society often places expectations on relationships of all kinds, handing us pre-determined examples of what they should look like, how they should progress, and what milestones they should achieve.

However, by reclaiming our relationships, we can break free from these social and historical expectations and define our own path. By doing so, we allow ourselves to explore unconventional connections, redefine success, and prioritize our own happiness. This helps us foster deeper bonds, stronger self-worth, and a sense of fulfillment that aligns with our individual values.

Challenging relationship dynamics is certainly not easy. And I’m not suggesting it should be. We are a communal species, and anything that threatens our closest relationships can feel like looming death on the horizon.

But unconsciously fulfilling predetermined roles that we’ve never consented to also isn’t easy. It may SEEM easiER, because it’s familiar. And what’s familiar is difficult to shift.

Which is why support in these kinds of things is crucial. And, again, that can be hard to ask for and accept.

But it’s not actually EASY to harbor resentment, guilt, and whatever else comes up because of habituated patterns of role fulfillment that you didn’t ask for.

If you’re in a place where you’d like to excavate your relationship roles to see what’s beneath the surface, I want to invite you to join Project Reclamation.

Dig in. Hold ideas, norms, and conventions up to the light. Dust them off. Examine them. And decide – on purpose – if you want to keep them.

For those you find that you want to keep, you’ll learn tools and have support to strengthen. For those you want to shift, you’ll learn tools and have support to redefine and reclaim on your terms.

You deserve to have relationships that uphold YOUR definitions.

Join Project Reclamation to get the tools and support you need. www.KeliLynJewel.com/reclamation

Keli Jackson 11/29/23 Keli Jackson 11/29/23

How The Fuck Did We Get Here? A Patriarchy Story

What do Cleopatra, Medusa, and Cassandra all have in common?

They’re positioned as the actual main characters in the last three books for 2023 within the integrated book club inside Project Reclamation.

We know these women. But we only know their stories from the perspective of the patriarchal lens of storytelling that handed them down to us.

What do Cleopatra, Medusa, and Cassandra all have in common?

They’re positioned as the actual main characters in the last three books for 2023 within the integrated book club inside Project Reclamation.

We know these women. But we only know their stories from the perspective of the patriarchal lens of storytelling that handed them down to us.

And that’s the point of this book series. It’s a five-month deep dive into how the fuck we got here in the very specific intersectional blend of patriarchy, white supremacy, Christian supremacy, etc etc etc we find ourselves living in today.

For the book club, we started in October in ancient Egypt – which, by the way, lasted for more than three THOUSAND years. The book: When Women Ruled the World by Kara Cooney.

Second only to China for the longest-running human civilization, ancient Egypt formed the foundation for how Western patriarchy has been structured and is what Western empires have modeled themselves after.

So when we seek out answers to the question of how the fuck we got here, starting anywhere else only paints a partial picture.

In the book, the author explores the reigns of Merneith, Neferusobek, Hatshepsut, Nefertiti, Tawosret, and Cleopatra – the six women who held real power over Egypt.

Six.

In 3,000 years.

She discusses how they came to power, the various ways they aligned themselves with the patriarchal construct and held it up in order to maintain their power, and the vast differences in rulership and impact they had in comparison to their male counterparts.

This book delivers an excellent demonstration of how our Western culture of hierarchies truly originated. And the book club discussion was spectacular!

Minds were BLOWN at how similarly our systems of power and oppression are set up today.

And equally as blown to consider how far we’ve come on gender equity in such an incredibly short span of time compared to just how old this shit is and how deep it runs.

It’s not just generational. It’s multi-millennial.

Last week, inside Project Reclamation, we had the book club discussion for our November book "Women and Other Monsters" by Jess Zimmerman.

This discussion got even more heated than October’s call because the author invites us – through beautifully relatable memoir – to explore the stories of Greek mythology through a new lens in order to show how ubiquitous misogyny has become.

Harpies, for example. They weren’t just unpleasant women. They were ravenous monsters who would wreak utter havoc on your life, destroying your stuff and stealing your food. And it’s a derogatory term reserved today to diminish trust and undermine powerful women.

Hilary Clinton, for example. During her time as first lady and during both presidential campaigns she ran, our patriarchal society in the US couldn’t stand the thought of a woman wielding the same power that has always been granted to men. But she wasn’t just chastised. She wasn’t merely called a bitch. No, she was nasty. She was a harpy – a monster capable of destroying your life and eager to steal the food out of your children’s mouths.

Of course, we don’t think about the details of such terms anymore. We’re disconnected from the myths and legends. And that’s part of what makes them so insidious. It’s part of what makes Western culture so dangerous for women, queer folks, people of color, disabled folks, and other people of marginalized identities.

It’s like the air we breathe. We don’t notice it. It just is.

In the book, Zimmerman also shifts the perspective of well-known characterizations:

Medusa – what was HER experience like, never being able to make meaningful eye contact with someone, lest they turn to stone?

Sirens – what was THEIR experience like, always singing out for love, only to find that those who heard their call would encounter painful and tragic death, never reaching them to share that love?

We’ve never asked.

These are the questions we need to ask of all religious and mythological texts: How would the women have told their stories? And in many cases, how (and why) were their stories edited out?

These are precisely the questions Elizabeth Lesser asks in the December book for Project Reclamation. The book of hers that we’re reading is "Cassandra Speaks: When Women Are the Storytellers, the Human Story Changes."

In the book, Lesser explores the stories we tell without considering any alternative viewpoints or possibilities – those that we’re handed without questioning them, that then become baked into the culture.

Cassandra – blessed with future sight, cursed with no one believing her. ← What’s her side of the story?

Pandora – blamed for opening the box. ← What would she have to say about it?

Eve – that whole apple thing that led to every sin ever. ← What’s her take on the matter?

"Cassandra Speaks" taps into it all, and since Eve is involved, this book leads us into "God Is a Black Woman" by Christena Cleveland for our January book.

The author is a theologian, and I typically steer clear of any religious affiliation with the Project Reclamation book club. This book, however, chronicles her journey through dismantling the white supremacist, patriarchal concept that she calls “whitemalegod” and, through her journey, offers an alternative viewpoint on Christianity, specifically.

Considering how much “whitemalegod” permeates our Western culture in general and the political landscape of the United States specifically, the exception to religious affiliation is well positioned for this book.

In February, Project Reclamation will revisit a book that was part of our book club in July 2022: "Fearing the Black Body" by Sabrina Strings.

This book should be required reading for everyone with a body. And it rounds out our deep dive to answer the question of how the fuck we got here.

Just as we cannot gain a full understanding without looking at the power structures of ancient Egypt, and we cannot see with full clarity without digging into the patriarchal lens of Greek and Roman mythology or Christianity, we have absolutely no reference point without solid insight into how chattel slavery of Colonial America shaped our view of bodies.

This book will change you. It will change your relationship with American history. It will change your relationship with the fashion industry. It will change your relationship with the diet/fitness/wellness industry. It will change your relationship with the beauty industry.

But most importantly, it will change your relationship with your body.

And I want to invite you to read it with us inside Project Reclamation.

So what is Project Reclamation?

It’s a membership community like no other.

Built with the philosophy of equity-first, through the lens of anti-capitalism, upon a foundation of self-coaching tools with access to master certified life coaches, all within the context of a supportive community; at $10/month or $100/year, Project Reclamation exists to make what’s normally gate-kept behind massive paywalls accessible to the massive amount of people who need it most.

It’s smart. It’s supportive. It’s accessible. And it’s open for registration.

Join us at KeliLynJewel.com/reclamation.

Keli Jackson 11/24/23 Keli Jackson 11/24/23

It’s Friday! Let’s Fck Some Sht Up Together!

Happy Friday, lovely! It’s time to fuck some shit up!

Why? Because I want to combine everything in my varied background into one place to offer my highest and greatest good to you. Take what resonates. Leave the rest.

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Start foreplay in the morning.

Seriously.

Not 5 minutes before you want to engage in penetration. (Because fucking OUCH!)

But if you think you might want to get busy in the evening, get flirty in the morning. Touch your partner (or yourself…or both) in sensual ways before leaving for work. Send suggestive text messages throughout the day. Make sexy plans on your lunch break. And live into intimacy throughout the day.

That doesn’t mean being constantly distracted, but checking in with your own sexuality throughout the day rather than checking out with social media or whatever else you use to numb out.

Then when it’s time to truly connect with your sexuality, it’ll be more readily accessible. More within reach. More available.

You’ll be ready. And eager. And you’ll have a much more pleasurable experience.🔥

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Inside Project Reclamation, I pull a card for the community each week. This week, considering we have a problematic holiday here in the US, I pulled from a deck called Hack Your Nervous System, created by Brianna Rose. You can get the deck from her Etsy shop here: hack-your-nervous-system-card-deck

The card I pulled is called Welcome the Wave, and it reads: “When you fight with difficult emotions, hoping to make them “go away,” stress chemicals get released in the body. Instead, let’s try something that is proven to soothe your nervous system when hard feelings arise: Place your hand on your heart, your belly, or wherever the emotion is showing up in your body. You can rhythmically tap or rub this area for a more regulating effect.

Acknowledge: “I am feeling ___ (anxious, sad, angry, etc.)”

Normalize: “This is painful & scary, but it makes sense why I would feel this way.”

Explore Purpose: “Thank you (emotion), for trying to ___ (keep me safe, protected, motivated, etc.)”

Welcome: “I will take care of you for as long as you need to stay. You are welcome here.”

Notice what happens.

For more emotional processing techniques, nervous system regulation hacks, as well as cognitive self-coaching tools and access to master-certified coaches to help you when you’re stuck, all within a supportive community with an equity-centered focus, join us in Project Reclamation. 💖

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Is it a skill issue or a will issue?

This is one of the most valuable questions I ask myself when coaching the SellingU Community members. And I invite you to ask yourself this question the next time you’re “stuck” or “confused” or “don’t know what to do/how to do it.” Because it offers a lot of clarity on the type of guidance to seek.

If it’s a skill issue, that means you need training. That can look like learning more about a platform you’re using, attending a copywriting course, or role-playing your consult calls to get practice making direct offers.

If it’s a will issue, that means you need coaching. That can look like utilizing self-coaching tools to work through whatever you’re resisting or working with a coach to help pull out what’s really going in ways that you can’t see from the inside.

But if it’s a skill issue and you work with a mindset coach, you’re going to be spinning around in self-blame for not being able to figure it out. And if it’s a will issue, but you seek out courses and programs to teach you more of the “how-to” things, you’re just going to be spending money to learn what you already know and not actually addressing the real issue.

Most entrepreneurial support programs offer one or the other. You either get training, or you get coaching. In SellingU, you get both. If that sounds useful to you, sign up for the spring cohort here. 💸

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This week, I’m offering you a full moon ritual to hand you a little piece of that.

FULL MOON RITUAL

Supplies: paper, pen, candle, some sort of non-flammable receptacle (actual cauldron, metal, glass, or ceramic bowl or pot, fire pit outside, the base of a grill – you’re gonna burn some shit up so you want something to let it burn in that’s not going to cause any damage to anything)

Steps:

Take a few minutes and ground yourself, whatever that means to you – whether that’s a few deep breaths, listening to a guided meditation, washing your face, putting your feet in the grass, masturbating, or anything else. Then light your candle.
Write out what it is that you’d like to release. If this is something you’ve been clinging to that isn’t serving you, and you’re releasing your grip on it, fold the paper in half AWAY from your body. If it’s something you’ve been working on and are releasing into the world, fold the paper in half TOWARD your body.
Light the paper on fire and let it burn in your non-flammable receptacle.
BONUS: If you want to mix the burnt ashes with salt and/or offer them back to the earth by sprinkling them around outside or burying them under the moon, go for it!

The full moon in Gemini on Monday, November 27, might stir up some stress and tension. It’s an excellent time to go inward and get curious about those deep emotions. Write it down or talk it out and notice what comes up for you. ✨

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This week, we’re hexing Ron DeSantis. Did he do something especially fucked up this week? No. But here’s the deal: Thanksgiving is a holiday that has been whitewashed in the US public education system since forever, and just when we’ve FINALLY started making some progress on having *actual* history taught in schools, this fucker starts banning books in Florida and running for President.

So in honor of all the history we did not learn in school and that may be kept from students; in honor of all the ways the egregious truths have been hidden from view; in honor of all the terror that colonizers have inflicted upon Native people here in the United States over the last several hundred years, we’re hexing DeSantis to keep his shitty educational platform out of federal office.

*This segment is not intended to promote harm to anyone in any way. I don’t hex people in real life ✊

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That’s it for this week, lovely! I appreciate you offering me space in your day. And I look forward to seeing you fuck some shit up today! ❤️‍🔥

-xoxo-

Keli

Registration is now open, so click the link to join. See you on the inside!

Keli Jackson 11/23/23 Keli Jackson 11/23/23

Reclaiming Holidays

Holiday magic is always only available because of the women working behind the scenes to make it possible. Without recognition, praise, or thanks. And without complaint.

Holiday magic is always only available because of the women working behind the scenes to make it possible.

Without recognition, praise, or thanks. And without complaint.

But a couple of decades ago, I told that tired, old tradition to fuck all the way off, and I reclaimed Thanksgiving as my own.

Now, I want to be clear that I fully embrace the fact that Thanksgiving is a fucked up holiday in general because we’re celebrating genocide. The whitewashed idea that Native peoples were so grateful to the Colonizers is absolute bullshit, and I do not subscribe to any of the narratives that uphold it.

What’s also true is that in this particular rendition of late-stage capitalism that we’ve found ourselves in, rest, connection to one another, connection to our food, ritual, and true gratitude are never the focus.

Of course, we hyperfixate on food in disgusting and unhealthy ways. And we’re taught not to ask for what we want, or more of anything, because we “should just be grateful for what we have.” All of which are based in white-supremacist patriarchy.

But taking the time to create a ritualized meal where we truly connect to the food preparation, deeply connect to the folks sharing the meal with us, we take the following day off to rest, and we step into reflection of what we’re truly grateful for?

That doesn’t exist within the context of any other holiday. So, many years ago, I reclaimed Thanksgiving to make it what I wanted it to be – which is NOT overworking, rushing around, or dealing with family drama.

When I was growing up, holidays were always a bit chaotic. I loved them! But between what my mom would create for us at home, going off to my dad’s house — then my grandma’s house — having to make it to my step-dad’s family celebration, and maybe sometimes having another thing associated with someone in my mom’s family, it was a lot.

As I got older, some of that calmed down because people died and got divorced, but new marriages just meant new family dinners. And these were mostly filled with judgment and resentment. The new step-family didn’t like us and was pretty quick to let us know that with judgment and passive-aggression.

Part of that was likely because I was gay. But part of it was also because my siblings and I weren’t young children who could be easily shaped by their worldview. And we had been raised by a woman who – despite her VERY sheltered and religiously conservative Ozarks upbringing – raised us to explore and think for ourselves, learn everything we wanted to learn, and be true to ourselves. So even before I came out, the foundation had been set. They didn’t like us. We weren’t like them. Then, when I did come out, that just added another layer of passive-aggressive judgment into the mix.

In my early 20s, I got married. (For the record, I do not recommend this.) That meant adding in my ex-wife’s family traditions to the already-a-lot holidays. Her family was quite large, and one sister took control of the holidays.

She wouldn’t accept help because she didn’t like the way anyone else did anything, but would always be resentful about doing everything on her own. (Side note: This is how we internalize patriarchy. We put everything on ourselves and refuse to consider that someone else’s way might work just as well. If this is what you’re doing to yourself, fucking stop it. Perfectionism is internalized patriarchy in disguise.)

One Thanksgiving, my ex and I convinced her family to let us host. That sister criticized every dish, our home, and me personally the entire time.

That’s when I decided to reclaim Thanksgiving for myself.

After a childhood of being carted around to big family gatherings – multiple in a day – and spending the holidays in my first few years of adulthood surrounded by judgment and stress, I was done.

I reclaimed Thanksgiving for myself.

I’m not Christian, so celebrating Christmas isn’t something that’s super important to me. My partner and I do decorate, but we honor the Celtic and other pagan origins of things like decorating a tree and adding light to the dark days more than anything else. (And we decorate for Halloween to a much greater extent!)

But Christmas is extremely important to my mother, so we always have a family gathering. Sometimes we host, and sometimes she hosts.

We also always get together with my partner’s family, which sometimes includes multiple stops. Generally over multiple days.

All of that is fine because Thanksgiving is mine. I carried this reclamation with me when my marriage ended and have kept it solid in my current relationship – which is now in its 13th year. It is a firm boundary. It is now a tradition.

Some years look different from other years. And we do see family around the Thanksgiving holiday. But it’s not chaotic for us. It’s not stressful for us. And it’s filled with love.

We show up fully as ourselves. Other people are allowed to be themselves fully. Holidays are hard for some of them due to grief and loss.

But because we have our own holiday that’s just ours, where we can truly focus on the ritual of connecting with one another over a shared meal that we’ve created together, we show up differently, as our full selves, in a calmer, more loving place than had we just given into the hectic monster of the capitalistic, perfectionistic “holiday season” every year.

And we’re able to hold space for the experience of the holidays being hard for those we love because we’ve reclaimed one for ourselves.

If this all sounds like a fantasy dreamland kind of experience to you, and you’re thinking, “Yeah. Must be nice! It was probably easy for you! If I tried to do that, my family would lose their shit!” I’d like to offer you this: It was a fucking fight in the beginning.

Nobody was happy about it.

People got BIG mad! Especially my ex-sister-in-law. I mean, I kicked her out of my house because she insulted me, my food, and my home the entire time she was there. I set boundaries. And I upheld them. That was neither easy nor calm.

And when I stated to my family that I’d be reclaiming Thanksgiving as my own, it took a while for that to be okay. “What do you mean you won’t be coming to Thanksgiving?”

I’ve made it very clear that anyone is welcome to come to my house for my Thanksgiving, but rarely does anyone take me up on it. And my family has adjusted.

Did it take time? Yes.

Was I willing to put forth the effort to uphold my boundaries, to hold space for other people’s reactions, and to stand firm in my decision to create a ritualized holiday space for myself? Also yes. Very much, yes. Very big yes.

My partner’s family still struggles with this now. And we work with it without dismantling our boundaried tradition. Because it’s how we maintain peace for ourselves.

This is the thing we’re not taught to do: let other people struggle while maintaining our boundaries and protecting our peace.

Instead, we’re taught to give in. To “keep the peace,” which is never actually peaceful because it’s never actually authentic.

So this holiday season, I invite you to consider what you can reclaim for yourself. As a ritual. For deep connection. For authenticity. For peace. For true gratitude. For you.

What would you need to say no to?

What would you need to say yes to?

And how would you uphold that for yourself?

Let me know how you’re reclaiming this holiday season. I want to support you through it.

Keli Jackson 11/17/23 Keli Jackson 11/17/23

Reclaiming My Body

Reclaiming My Body

Twelve. That’s how old I was when I first started taking diet pills. I was 12.

And that was years after starting to diet.

Twelve. That’s how old I was when I first started taking diet pills.

I was twelve.

And that was years after starting to diet.

I don’t remember the first time I went on a diet. But I also don’t remember ever NOT trying to control my food intake and make my body smaller.

My mother is quite slim – always has been and has struggled to keep weight on. I was granted a very different genetic code. One that delivered fuller thighs and more overall roundness and softness.

And the house we lived in between the time I was in 4th and 10th grades was next door to a woman who was obsessed with weight. Not only hers but mine as well.

She convinced my mother that I needed to be put on diet pills. Because, according to her, if I didn’t get the weight off as a child, I’d be doomed to carry it around with me forever.

OH NO! 😱 THE CURSE OF THE FAT! 😨 WE MUST BREAK THE CURSE OF THE FAT!😰

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Turns out, when you start taking diet pills as a child, THAT actually fucks up your body and makes it more likely that you’ll raise your body’s set point for weight.

But, hey. It was the 90s. We were enamored with the heroin chic look, and everything we ate was fat-free. So when diet pills became available at mall kiosks, it fit right in with the culture.

It was 8th grade when I actively started noticing boys paying attention to my body. And working at the mall in high school meant getting a lot of comments.

Including the invitation to attend the wedding of a celebrity from my hometown. I worked with his cousin. He told her I was cute and wanted to see me there.

I was 15.

Fucking gross. 🤢

At 16, I was running three miles a day in an effort to burn off as many calories as possible.

And when I say three miles a day, I mean every day. No matter what.

Was I at a frat party getting wasted off of Strawberry Hill Boone’s Farm a few blocks from my high school when I remembered that I hadn’t run yet that day? Cool, then I was walking to the track so I could get those three miles in. I might vomit on the football field afterward, but hey. That would just be a bonus! It meant the calories from the alcohol didn’t count!

My goal weight was 113 pounds.

But no matter how much I punished my body, how many pills I took, or how much I restricted myself to lettuce, I never found a way to get below about 130.

As an undergrad attending a women’s college, it was always jarring to leave campus.

The catcalls were unnerving. And the accusations of performative lesbianism for the benefit of the men attending the other colleges or who just lived in the town were neverending.

So, I took it upon myself to get paid for the catcalls.

I became a stripper.

For two years, I took control over the context of objectification.

Up on that stage, up on that pole, at the tables, and in that lapdance room, I reversed the power dynamic of patriarchal oppression over my body.

I could decide who saw me, who got my attention, and who had access to touch me. And I got fucking PAID for it. With bodyguards around for protection and to kick out any jackass I didn’t like.

Performative lesbianism WAS part of the gig at the club. But as an actual lesbian, that worked out in my favor, too.

Dancing at the club, playing soccer and basketball for my college, and working out with both Army and Air Force recruiters on a regular basis kept my body pretty fit.

Until fibromyalgia started to hinder my body’s ability to function at all.

Then, fitness didn’t matter quite as much as figuring out treatment.

Which, honestly, didn’t ever really work. Medications created side effects that were worse than the symptoms themselves.

And then there was the weight gain.

Forty pounds over just a few months.

It was devastating.

I didn’t want to see anyone. Because I didn’t want anyone to see me.

Eventually, I got to a point of acceptance with my weight that I could function in normal life without completely punishing myself in every single moment.

But I’m gonna be very clear that I didn’t do it on my own.

It was therapy.

Because anyone who claims they pulled themselves up by their bootstraps in any kind of capacity is full of shit, and gaslighting you like that just isn’t really my brand.

And my first year of grad school, I simultaneously attended massage therapy school.

For the first time since they began, my fibro symptoms began to get under control.

But control also came back with a vengeance to my food intake.

The world of “wellness” is rife with all kinds of fucked up ideas about how much control we have over our health. And being trained to see through that lens, I started down a path of intense orthorexia.

I didn’t know that was a thing until about a decade into it.

But it’s a thing. Disordered eating isn’t just anorexia or bulimia. An obsession with health-consciousness is disordered eating. Hyper-fixation with “clean” eating and doing detoxes on a regular basis isn’t actually healthy – mentally or physically.

Plus, we don’t actually have as much control over our health as we like to believe. And putting a moral value on health – that “healthy” is somehow morally superior – that’s actually pretty fucking ableist. Health is a privilege that isn’t afforded to everyone equally.

Hell, for that matter, neither are “healthy choices” like fresh foods, clean water, and safe spaces for movement. Systemic oppression in various forms prevents that.

So, like, fuck the wellness world and all of its moral superiority.

About a decade ago, I started experiencing symptoms that doctors couldn’t figure out.

Without going into all of the details of how the medical system in the United States is a total fucking nightmare, I’ll just say that having received no conclusive answers for anything, the general consensus was to cut out gluten.

So I did. And my symptoms improved.

(That didn’t help the orthorexia. But 🤷‍♀️)

Over time, there have been other foods I’ve needed to either limit or completely eliminate. And I’m extremely grateful that there are so many allergy-friendly foods that have come on the market in recent years because that makes eating a hell of a lot easier.

But it’s really easy to take symptoms for food-related sensitivities and wrap it into disordered eating.

And the whole point of sharing this entire story with you is to get to the part of recovery and what that looks like.

Because this time, it wasn’t therapy. It was the coaching tools I teach that actually helped me reclaim my body.

I teach my clients the tools that I’ve seen the most benefit from within my own experience and the experiences of the thousands of clients I’ve coached.

It was actually during the Covid shutdown that I really started working on my relationship with my body.

I had worked on it to a certain extent prior to that. With a coach. And I had gotten some pretty incredible results.

But then I went on another “losing” spree. Cleanses. Obsession. And I got down to a size 6. Which was, honestly, something I felt really great about!

For about two weeks.

Then, like magic, a pair of size 4 “goal jeans” came into my life.

And that’s when I knew I hadn’t actually healed like I thought I had.

Not that I hadn’t healed at all!

I just thought I was done. That I had conquered the body stuff.

Really, I had only gotten a little below the surface.

Some intense excavation was needed. And the Covid lockdown provided the perfect opportunity for it.

At least for it to start.

Over the course of the last few years, I’ve gained a lot of weight.

Because of that, I’ve outgrown a shit load of clothes. (Most of which I got rid of during a yard sale just before Halloween.) And one of the most healing things I’ve done is allow myself to purchase clothes I love that fit my new sizes.

Fashion has always been something I’ve loved. (Literally – the outfit I wore for my first day of school as a kindergartener was curated at every detail. But that’s another story for another day.) And allowing myself to play with fashion as my body changes has been a new experience.

In the past, weight gain has been so shameful that I’ve hidden my body under ill-fitting clothing. But adorning my body in looks I love has been one of the things that has helped me to reclaim myself within my body as it changes.

I’m not sharing all of this with you to tell you that buying a cute outfit’ll magically fix your body image.

Fashion is simply a tool, like many others, that we can use to weaponize against ourselves or to uplift ourselves.

And how we use it largely depends on what other tools we have at our disposal.

But it also depends on what kind of support we have available to guide us through using those tools.

When I was a massage therapist, I used to hear allll the time from clients on my table who wanted to start doing yoga or Pilates because they could do them from home with YouTube videos where nobody would see them. And I would ALWAYS encourage them to go to a class for at least a few weeks before trying it on their own.

Why? Because when you have an instructor watching how your body moves, they can offer gentle guidance and correction to ensure you’re in proper form. Which is important because if you’re not in proper form, you can actually injure yourself. But when you’re well-guided, when you’re coached, you start to be able to feel what’s right.

And the same is true with life coaching tools.

I’ve seen some of the tools I teach used in unhelpful ways. When we’re just self-coaching, we can easily weaponize the tools against ourselves.

Hell, I’ve done it myself.

Just like all the shit I learned in massage therapy school turning into orthorexia.

When we’re left to our own devices, no matter how good the tools are, we can manipulate the tools to fit our old self-harming patterns.

That’s why working with a coach is so important.

I’ve got three spots for 1:1 coaching if in-depth, hands-on support is your thing. Book a consult call with me, and we’ll go over details.

And if you like a more self-guided DIY approach with a community aspect, Project Reclamation registration is open for learning to coach yourself well and getting support along the way. Sign up directly at KeliLynJewel.com/reclamation.

You deserve to reclaim your body.

Keli Jackson 11/10/23 Keli Jackson 11/10/23

It’s Friday! Let’s Fck Some Sht Up Together!

Happy Friday, lovely! It’s time to fuck some shit up!

Why? Because I want to combine everything in my varied background into one place to offer my highest and greatest good to you. Take what resonates. Leave the rest.

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You know how technology is amazing and wonderful until it’s NOT? And then we realize just how dependent we are on it. Like, you have all the connectivity with your team at work, and everyone’s communicating effectively, and all the info is being distributed how it needs to be…and then Teams goes down. Or the internet at the office goes out. Or there’s a storm, and everyone loses power.

That shit is frustrating. But what’s even more frustrating than it happening with work? Being left at the altar of an orgasm when your rechargeable toy dies. 😰

Listen. I know the best of the best toys are rechargeable. Better quality motors. Lower vibrational frequency. Softer silicone.

But when does it die? AT THE WORST POSSIBLE MOMENT.

So my sex tip to you this week is this: Have a battery backup toy. (And don’t store the batteries IN the toy. They’ll start to corrode, and you don’t want chalky battery acid flaking off around your genitals.)

Will that toy be as good as your rechargeable faves? Of course not. But in a pinch, it’ll get the job done and be WAY less frustrating than waiting 20 minutes next to the outlet for the dead toy to charge enough for 7 minutes of vibration.🔥

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This time of year is crunch time for a lot of folks. And I’m not talking about your job. I’m talking about your neck.

Extra long hours at work to get year-end projects completed. Hunching over your phone to find the right Black Friday deals. Driving longer distances to visit family and friends for holiday gatherings.

It all adds up to a lot of neck tension. Here’s a simple and gentle way to lengthen those crunched-up neck muscles:

- Tilt your head to the left.

- Sit on your right hand.

- Gently guide your head toward your left shoulder with your left hand.

- Hold for 90 seconds.

- Repeat on the other side.

Sitting on your hand ensures your shoulder won’t creep up as your head tilts, so the muscles will actually elongate.

Ninety seconds ensures the fascia (connective tissue that surrounds each muscle) will also elongate. It’s not as flexible as muscle tissue and needs longer to release.

Try this 3-minute exercise 3x a day for three days and see what you notice. 💖

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What comes to mind when you think of SALES? A creepy dude smoking a cigar with his chest hair popping out of his half-buttoned shirt? Those dreaded “hey girl” messages from someone you’ve not spoken to in a decade? Some kind of random I CAN GET YOU 10,000 CLIENTS A DAY message that lands in your hidden inbox?

Yeah, that’s all normal imagery. But it’s not what sales actually is. At least, it’s not what sustainable sales is. Because to make it sustainable, it needs to be authentic.

When I coach and train my clients on their authentic sales voice, it comes from the place where they’re already selling.

Yes. Already selling. YOU are already selling. All the time.

The IT toys that are on Black Friday special that you told your friend about so she could get them for her kid? The incredible book you read that you recommended with enthusiasm to the coworker who loves that genre? The restaurant you got your mom to book a reservation at because you know she’ll love that one dish?

That’s all selling.

Tap into THAT and get curious about what it feels like. What it sounds like. And how to incorporate it into selling your offers.

Because that’s your authentic sales voice. And that’s what will help your clients connect with what you’re selling. 💸

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This week, I’m offering you a new moon ritual to hand you a little piece of that.

NEW MOON RITUAL

Supplies: paper, pen, glass of water that you’ll drink

Steps:

Take a few minutes and ground yourself, whatever that means to you – whether that’s a few deep breaths, listening to a guided meditation, washing your face, putting your feet in the grass, masturbating, or anything else.
Write out what it is you want to create, achieve, or accomplish. This can be big or small. It can be for the lunar cycle beginning with this new moon, the next six months, the next calendar year, or a lifelong dream.
Read what you’ve written—out loud—over your glass of water. Then drink the water.

Our upcoming New Moon is on Monday, November 13. It’s a New Moon in Scorpio, which can be a lovely invitation to consider the depth of your desires. So if you’re into it, ask yourself “What do I deeply desire?” for this month’s New Moon ritual. ✨

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This week we’re hexing Eric Trump. I mean, come on. Have you seen his testimony? Bullshit on bullshit on bullshit. 🙄 So much contradiction. So much pretending to be stupid. So much “I don’t know anything about this thing that is a basic fucking concept.” He sucks. That’s all.

*This segment is not intended to promote harm to anyone in any way. I don’t hex people in real life. ✊

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That’s it for this week, lovely! I appreciate you offering me space in your day. And I look forward to seeing you fuck some shit up today! ❤️‍🔥

-xoxo-

Keli

Registration is now open, so click the link to join. See you on the inside!

Keli Jackson 11/8/23 Keli Jackson 11/8/23

Reclaiming My Brand

Reclaiming My Brand

A little over a year ago, I rebranded my podcast.

It went from a general life-coaching podcast with no aim and no direction to a feminist sales and business podcast.

A little over a year ago, I rebranded my podcast.

It went from a general life-coaching podcast with no aim and no direction to a feminist sales and business podcast.

It aligned with my SellingU program, allowed me to explore various business topics through a subversive lens, and gave me an opportunity to highlight and promote several of my clients and other entrepreneurial friends.

But if you’ve been following along for any length of time, you know it’s not always about business.

And here’s the thing: I don’t want it to be just about business.

So, I’m rebranding it again.

This time, it aligns with a more comprehensive program I offer called Project Reclamation, which is founded in my strong connection to equity and anticapitalism. And is part of a larger, overarching concept that gives my company a really interesting direction that we’ll dive deeper into later.

And Project Reclamation itself is a rebrand of a concept I started with nearly three years ago, could never quite put my finger on what was missing, and just threw some stuff together to HAVE something as a sort of place-holder until I found the missing pieces.

Which is actually really similar to the aimless, directionless beginnings of my podcast. I threw 47 episodes together just to be able to embody the concept of HAVING a podcast.

This is how I often build things. It’s messy. It’s experimental. And it allows for a lot of testing and feedback, involving my clients and audience in the process.

For a lot of people, that sounds utterly terrifying. Because it also allows for public mistakes, public failures, and public scrutiny.

But I actually don’t mind any of that. I’d rather offer complete transparency at every step and totally fuck it up, than keep things hidden away, having only my own opinions and lenses for feedback.

To me, that’s a much more guaranteed way to truly fail.

So, anyway, I’m reclaiming my brand.

Because here’s the deal: A year and a half ago, I went through something really fucking hard that I’m legally prohibited from talking much about.

Something that shook me to the core about whether the coaching industry was something I wanted to be part of.

Then, I watched friends and colleagues go through something really similar, which was also shocking.

The same kind of thing then happened again. And again.

I also saw the repercussions of all of it for other people, those not directly impacted. But the indirect impacts were quickly very clear. Some of which is still unfolding. And it’s all still really evident.

And I scrambled to create any kind of solid foundation for myself.

I jumped at the first opportunity for that, which was sales coaching. Which, btw, I love. That’s not going anywhere. Don’t worry. Doors for the membership community and mastermind will open again in March. And there might be an international retreat happening next fall. 😘

But a bitch contains multitudes. And focusing exclusively on sales – clearly – does not work for me.

We’ve got ghost stories and moon rituals happening up in here. We’ve got nervous system regulation and physical stress releases. Hell, with the new Fuck Shit Up Fridays email newsletter, we’ve got money mindset and sex tips as of late. And politics. We can’t forget the politics.

So, I’m expanding and rebranding.

Going forward, my podcast will be called The Reclamation Podcast. And if they haven’t updated yet, the new graphics and new name should all be accepted by the podcast platforms very soon.

The Reclamation Podcast is a space where we embark on a journey of self-discovery, challenging patriarchal norms, and reclaiming the power within each of us. And I’m thrilled to be on this transformative journey with you.

In this podcast, we’ll be exploring the art and science of reclaiming ourselves from the influence of patriarchal socialization.

Though I want to be clear: When I talk about the patriarchy, that’s short-hand for the cis-heteronormative, white supremacist, Christian supremacist, toxic capitalist patriarchy. It’s not just a gendered issue we’re dealing with. It’s all connected.

Through candid conversations, personal anecdotes, and insightful interviews, we’ll share practical tips and tools to help you on your own path of reclamation. You might even get an occasional peek inside Project Reclamation – the equity-focused self-coaching collective that serves as the namesake of the podcast, weekend retreats, and soon-to-be so much more!

You’ll hear stories of triumph, vulnerability, and resilience from individuals who have bravely reclaimed their bodies, their careers, their time, and their very identities. And, of course, we’ll talk reclaiming sales, reclaiming business, and reclaiming entrepreneurship from time to time.

From unearthing buried passions to challenging societal expectations, we’ll dive deep into the process of rediscovering our authentic selves.

Whether you’re seeking guidance on your own journey of reclamation or simply looking for inspiration, this podcast is for you. Together, we’ll navigate the complexities of self-discovery, dismantle limiting beliefs, and build a foundation of inner wisdom and self-trust.

Join me every Wednesday on your favorite podcast platform.

Your reclamation starts now.

Keli Jackson 11/1/23 Keli Jackson 11/1/23

Reclaiming Peace

Reclaiming Peace

I grew up in the Midwest and was raised Christian. And I remember hearing the adage of wishing for world peace for Christmas.

As a kid, I had no context for what that really meant.

I grew up in the Midwest and was raised Christian. And I remember hearing the adage of wishing for world peace for Christmas.

As a kid, I had no context for what that really meant.

There was no war that touched me. There was no collective violence that impacted my life. And my first introduction to the concept of military action was by way of wrapping a yellow ribbon around a tree in our front yard because that somehow indicated support for my step-uncle, who was deployed with the army during the Iraq war.

It was theoretical. It was distant. And it was exclusively in the realm of adults when I was a child.

So, world peace as a Christmas wish didn’t really make sense to me. My direct experience of the world was pretty peaceful.

Now, as an adult, and given our current world circumstances, I can’t imagine wishing for anything else – for Christmas or otherwise.

And part of it is the obvious. Actual bloodshed. Actual violence. Actual threats.

But part of it is also the quick and loud outspokenness by people who are not directly – or even indirectly – impacted by the bloodshed, violence, and threats.

People who proclaim justice, equity, and liberation but seemingly speak without listening.

Because these people influence the people who follow them. And their audiences listen more to them than they do to the people directly impacted, which can lead to other forms of bloodshed, violence, and threats.

I’m not claiming to know what’s right. While I may have an academic background that supports having a certain level of intellectual information regarding the historical context of current events, I also have a lived experience that is far from related.

Therefore, my voice is far from relevant. And any opinions are half-formed, at best, because they lack the necessary lived experience to make them fully formed.

I know enough to know that I DON’T know enough to take up space in the conversation.

So I’m listening. Not to mass media. Not to social media influencers. But to people impacted. I’m checking in with people I love. I’m having individual conversations with people in my life rather than open conversations with the general public. And I encourage you to do the same.

Because ultimately, a peaceful resolution isn’t going to come from online vitriol. All that will do is serve to ramp up the islamophobia and antisemitism that are already on the rise.

No, having an individual conversation isn’t going to impact the decisions of a political leader. But it will add a level of connection and compassion to your life, whereas the social media discourse is primarily stoking fear and anger.

And imagine what might be available if we all had a bit more connection to and compassion for one another.

In no way is this intended to silence anyone’s voice. (I can already hear the accusations.)

But it looks like a lot of what’s happening in social media discourse is the oppressed becoming the oppressors.

Here’s what I mean: As women, we’ve been silenced for so long. And reclaiming our voice has been a hard road.

Sometimes, though, that leads to speaking up in spaces that aren’t ours.

Hence the backlash against White Feminism.

And, speaking from personal experience, the inside of a lot of White Feminist spaces is nothing more than patriarchal constructs with a woman filling every spot.

Sometimes, the patriarchy shows up wearing pink.

When the space isn’t ours, it’s far more important to listen than it is to speak.

Not listening to correct. Or listening to condemn. But listening to connect.

And I know that can be hard. Ultimately, though, I believe that’s what our work is here as humans: Connection.

So, if current world events seem overwhelming, get off of social media and have an actual conversation with someone about it. Check in with someone you love. See how they’re doing. Offer support – even (perhaps especially) if that’s just listening, compassion, and connection.

Keli Jackson 10/27/23 Keli Jackson 10/27/23

It’s Friday! Let’s Fck Some Sht Up Together!

Happy Friday, lovely! It’s time to fuck some shit up!

Why? Because I want to combine everything in my varied background into one place to offer my highest and greatest good to you. Take what resonates. Leave the rest.

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When was the last time you wore something for the sole purpose of feeling sexy? ← No, seriously. Answer this question for yourself.

If the answer is specific, and it’s within the last month, great! My message to you is simply this: Do that again sometime in the next two weeks.

However, I’m gonna need you to read on and take some notes for yourself if the answer is some sort of vague notion of a past time, a complete “No fucking idea when the last time was” notion, or a roll of the eyes and “Ha! I don’t do that!”

What does sexy even feel like? If we were to say that sexy is an emotional state we can be in, with emotions being felt via physiological responses in the body, think back to a time you felt the most sexy and consider what that felt like.

Where do you feel the sensations of sexy?
Describe those sensations. Are there tingles? Pulls? Aches? What else?
If they have colors, movement, sparkles, shapes, etc., describe those, as well.

What are you thinking when you feel sexy? ← This part is crucial because our emotional states are cognitively generated. Or, to put it more simply, our thoughts create our emotions. So, keying into what you’re thinking when you feel sexy helps you to take charge of those feelings and generate them any time you want to.

Though it’s our thoughts that generate our emotions, there are often external triggers that prime our brains to produce those thoughts. And for feeling sexy, what you wear can be an excellent trigger. Given that Halloween is in just a few days, maybe there’s a costume you’d like to wear to feel sexy. Maybe for you, lingerie is what feels sexy. Perhaps you feel sexy in a suit. Or boxers and a tie. Or specific undergarments — or no undergarments at all!

Once you’ve pinned down what sexy feels like for you and what you tend to think that generates those feelings, your next step is to consider what, when you wear it, helps trigger those thoughts.

And the final step: WEAR IT! At some point over the next two weeks, wear what feels sexy to you. It can be for 5 minutes or a whole day. But wear it. And if the mirror is a problem for you, stay away from it. This assignment is about what your body FEELS like, not what your perception is of what it looks like.

Feel into your body as you adorn yourself with sexy. Revel in the sensations. And if you’re a member of Project Reclamation (and it feels good to you to do so), share your experience in the group! 🔥

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You know those videos of people lying on a bed of nails? When acupressure mats came on the scene of self-care tools a few years ago, that’s all I could imagine it feeling like. (Not that I actually know what a bed of nails feels like. I just envision a lot of OUCH!)

But when Alltrue, a quarterly subscription box I get, offered it, I thought, “What the hell. I’ll try it.”

It just came in about two weeks ago, and when I tell you it’s heavenly, I mean HEAVENLY. (After a bit of ouch.)

The initial sensation the first time I used it was a little shocking because it’s a bunch of plastic pokey things all over a cushioned mat. And that’s just not something my body is used to feeling.

But I’ve used it a few times now, and each time the initial sensation is a little more familiar, which is excellent because it allows my body to relax into the pressure more quickly. And once relaxed, the little pokey things create subtle but ongoing nervous system, fascia, and muscular releases that are quite lovely!

I’ve noticed my low back and hips, as well as my upper back and in between my shoulder blades loosening more than just with my normal Pilates and foam rolling, and those modalities being more effective.

I don’t know what the long-term benefits will be, and this isn’t necessarily an endorsement quite yet. But I always find it useful to know what the people I trust are doing in real-time for their personal self-care, so I thought I’d share something new I’m trying.

If you have an acupressure mat, I’d love to know what you think of it! If you’re interested in them, here’s the one I have. 💖

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Sales as conversation.

Here’s what you need to know about sales: Sales is simply a conversation whereby you provide the other person with information and invite them to make a decision. A decision they didn’t even know they could make until you offered the invitation. A decision YOU WERE MAKING FOR THEM by not offering the invitation.

By NOT selling, you’re taking away other people’s agency to make decisions for themselves. Stop it.

Whatever it is you’re selling, whether it’s a product or a service, when you’re in a sales conversation, your focus needs to be on your potential client. The OTHER person involved in the conversation. Not yourself.

That means staying curious about what their needs are and being honest with yourself about whether or not your offer can meet those needs. When that’s your focus, you’ll ensure that whether they’re a yes or a no, you’ve built trust with them.

If you’re apprehensive about what they’ll think about you, anxious that they may say no, afraid that what you’re offering isn’t good enough (or you aren’t good enough), your focus is on YOU. That’s a one-sided conversation.

You’re not selling your offer to yourself. You’re selling it to the other person. Focus on them. Be present with them. Have an actual conversation with them. 💸

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This week, I’m offering you a full moon ritual to hand you a little piece of that.

FULL MOON RITUAL

Supplies: paper, pen, candle, some sort of non-flammable receptacle (actual cauldron, metal, glass, or ceramic bowl or pot, fire pit outside, the base of a grill – you’re gonna burn some shit up so you want something to let it burn in that’s not going to cause any damage to anything)

Steps:

Take a few minutes and ground yourself, whatever that means to you – whether that’s a few deep breaths, listening to a guided meditation, washing your face, putting your feet in the grass, masturbating, or anything else. Then light your candle.
Write out what it is that you’d like to release. If this is something you’ve been clinging to that isn’t serving you, and you’re releasing your grip on it, fold the paper in half AWAY from your body. If it’s something you’ve been working on and are releasing into the world, fold the paper in half TOWARD your body.
Light the paper on fire and let it burn in your non-flammable receptacle.
BONUS: If you want to mix the burnt ashes with salt and/or offer them back to the earth by sprinkling them around outside or burying them under the moon, go for it!

If you’ve been experiencing chaos and upheaval lately, hopefully, the end of eclipse season means that’ll calm down a bit for you.

Given that this full moon, occurring on October 28, is a lunar eclipse, the witchy community will advise against any kind of ritual, spellwork, or manifesting. They say the energies are chaotic and unpredictable.

Personally, I use new and full moon rituals as self-care. I see these sacred practices as a way to connect deeper into myself and a way to shift my relationship with time to one that’s more cyclical than what the Western, capitalistic world has adopted.

Make your own choices.

This full moon lunar eclipse is in Taurus at the beginning of Scorpio season. This makes it a beautiful time to reflect on any sacred practices you’ve incorporated into your life, any shadow work or trauma healing you’ve done, and how it has all impacted the way you show up for yourself.

If you don’t want to get into the full ritual, given that this is an eclipse, you can still do the ritualized writing with that as a focus. ✨

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Given that we were hexing Matt Gaetz with the new moon two weeks ago, it only seems appropriate to be hexing Mike Johnson this week with the full moon. I mean, COME ON! THIS GUY?!

First of all, I don’t even know how he got elected as House rep and assume he didn’t have much competition but had a lot of name recognition due to his radio show. (And now he hosts an evangelical podcast with his wife. Can we get some separation of church and state, please?! — To clarify, I say I don’t even know how he got elected because one of my mastermind clients is in his district and reported that everyone in the district was confused AF as to how he got the spot.

Anyway, he sucks. Homophobic. Anti-abortion. Election denier. Let’s hex the shit out of him. If you wanna continue hexing Matt Gaetz, I support you. And, as always, Josh Hawley will remain on the list until my state can get its shit together and vote him out of the Senate. Who else needs to be hexed?

*This segment is not intended to promote harm to anyone in any way. I don’t hex people in real life. ✊

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That’s it for this week, lovely! I appreciate you offering me space in your day. And I look forward to seeing you fuck some shit up today! ❤️‍🔥

-xoxo-

Keli

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Keli Jackson 10/26/23 Keli Jackson 10/26/23

Spooky Stories for Spooky Season

Spooky Stories for Spooky Season

Last year, I got kicked out of a theater by a ghost. This year, I’ve had my content stolen by spirits.

Last year, I got kicked out of a theater by a ghost. This year, I’ve had my content stolen by spirits.

I’m not joking. Weird shit has been happening. Let’s get into it.

If you missed my story last year about getting kicked out of a theater by a ghost, here’s the quick and dirty version:

I attended a spiritual retreat in Savannah, GA. We did a tour of a historical theater that’s still operational today. There was a ghost-hunting component to the tour. A voice very explicitly stated to GET OUT. When we asked who it wanted to get out, my device lit up like the Las Vegas strip. For the full story, go check out episode 111 of my podcast. It’s literally just called “I Got Kicked Out Of A Theater. By A Ghost.”

There are many aspects of that trip that I’ve not shared publicly. For example, the chakra awakening I experienced after hearing, very clearly, two distinct voices say, “They enter us through our bodies.” And, “You can always say no.” I literally did not sleep that night because my entire body was vibrating. If I hadn’t been cocooned in a mountain of blankets, I would have sworn I was levitating all night. And just like the ghost/theater experience, I’d think it was bullshit had it not been my actual body that was involved.

Many of the spiritual components of my life, I have no interest in sharing publicly. And, honestly, that’s become more pronounced since I went to France this year because Mary Magdalene will not let me share her photos.

Seriously. I know this sounds fucked up.

My birthday is at the end of September. (Shout out to all my September Libras!) And I like to claim the whole month. This year, I started my birthday month in France, and just after the end of my birthday month, I went to New Orleans. Both trips had weird shit involved. Let’s start with France.

I went to France for a spiritual retreat. And if you want more details on that, you can listen to episode 155 of my podcast, “I’m Going To France,” and episode 157, “Visiting The Mary Magdalene Caves In France.”

My connection to Mary Magdalene goes back to childhood (and my maternal grandmother’s name — for more on that, check out episode 127, “Reclaiming My Name.”) And this trip was bucket-list-level for me. While hiking up the mountain, climbing the stairs built into the cliff, and visiting the cave sanctuary itself, I took photos and videos. My baseline intention was to share these photos and videos with two retreat attendees who couldn’t make the hike that day. A bonus was being able to use some of it for a small amount of content.

This is what happened instead:

I sat at the altar and heard, “Stop giving everything away. This is all for you. It was always all for you.” I had some responses to this, which I talked about previously, but regardless of my responses, every single one of my photos and videos on my phone disappeared.

Like, not just the hike and the cave. Not just France. Everything.

This disappearance was temporary, but it didn’t just happen once. It happened a couple of times in the forest, but I didn’t realize it was EVERYTHING until I got onto the shuttle back to our villa and tried to ask our tour guide a question about something I saw. The photo wasn’t there. No photos were there. No videos were there. My storage was empty.

Once we got back to the villa, everything came back — until I would try to show a photo or video to someone else or upload it all to the Google Drive folder one of the attendees created for us to share. Then everything would disappear again. (And before you ask, no, my phone storage is not running low. I pay for a lot of it.)

After getting home from France, I uploaded photos and videos to TikTok and Instagram, sharing some of my trip as content. It was so fun to re-experience the trip in that way, distilling it down to poignant moments.

But when I got to the day of the hike, the videos would not upload. They would time out. The app would crash. I’d get error messages. Or it would just be a blank screen despite it looking fine during the creation process.

When I shared the content about my trip as a podcast episode and long-form Instagram multi-post, I tried using photos from the hike and cave chapel visit, but they wouldn’t send to my assistant and wouldn’t upload directly to IG.

The message I received in the cave was to stop giving everything away. That it’s all for me. And she wasn’t kidding.

I’ve tried to share. It’s just…not allowed, or whatever.

Consent is sexy, and she does not consent to me sharing her photos. 🤷♀️

That said, you can go look up photos of Ste. Baume if you want. It looks like that. And I’m considering putting together a rustic pilgrimage to go back at some point. If you want in on that experience, hit me up, and I’ll let you know when details get settled.

So September was kinda weird. Photo and video content disappearing and such. Then New Orleans tried to steal my rings. And instead, it stole my work.

The purpose of New Orleans was for a content creation session — photo shoot, video commercial for my website, and behind-the-scenes videos to use. (It’s an event called Strikethrough Weekend put on by Erin Brown, Holland Colvin, and Brandon Jones. They’ve done it three times. Go follow all three of them so you can be in the know for future collabs. If they ever do this again, sign up immediately.)

This content was all to have a witchy vibe. My wardrobe was mostly black, with a few white pieces. I took a few crystals and several Oracle card decks with me to use as props. And they actually gifted me with a new pendulum, which we used in some of the photos, as well.

I wear some crystals — bracelets and rings. And while I was at the shooting location, one of my crystal rings that I don’t wear often disappeared. I was certain I had it with me, but it was nowhere to be found. Thinking perhaps I was wrong and had left it at home on my desk by mistake, I packed up after the shoot, let the team know that if they found it, it was mine, and went about my way.

A bonus element to this trip was that my sister met me in New Orleans. She and I had talked about doing a sister trip to somewhere neither of us had been for ages, and when I found out this trip would be to New Orleans, I invited her to meet me there and hang out for the weekend.

I got back to where we were staying after my shoot and found the missing ring. Under ordinary circumstances, it would have just been fine. I clearly put it somewhere and forgot about it.

But I hadn’t put it anywhere.

The ring was inside a small velvet bag, with another crystal ring and my pendulums — which was inside of a larger velvet bag that had my other crystals inside. I hadn’t opened that bag since getting to New Orleans. I hadn’t even pulled it out of my suitcase.

So, since the ring went to New Orleans with me, it should have also gone to the shoot location with me. But it didn’t. That’s weird shit piece #1. (Well, aside from flickering lights and such that commonly get associated with spirit activity. That was a constant where we were staying.)

A little while later, my sister found another of my rings underneath my bed. This is a garnet ring my partner gave me many years ago.

I take my rings off when I wash my hands, but always put them back on. And I certainly don’t just throw them underneath furniture.

This ring is always on my right hand. When she handed me the ring, I realized a ring was also missing from my left hand — a basic hematite ring that I replace when it shatters.

My other rings were still on my fingers.

I assumed the hematite ring was just gone and planned to replace it the next day. My sister would be leaving, and I’d go walk around the French Quarter and check out a few witchy shops. Surely, I’d find a hematite ring. They’re everywhere.

But I didn’t find one. Not that they weren’t available. But in all the shops I visited, I didn’t find one that fit the finger I wear it on.

When I got home, I unpacked my suitcase to put away my props and do laundry. Then, a few days later, I moved my suitcase and compression packing cubes and out fell my hematite ring. AFTER unpacking everything and putting it all away.

New Orleans got jokes! Trying to steal my rings.

But the rings were just a distraction. What it actually stole? Content.

While at the Kansas City airport, on the plane to New Orleans, and on the plane back, I worked on the content for my new Fuck Shit Up Fridays email newsletter and blog. It comes out twice a month in accordance with the new and full moons. And it’s full of the best stuff: sex, self-care, business, sacred ritual, and snarky feminine rage against the political patriarchy.

Everything I had written during that time is nowhere to be found. We’re talking 6-7 hours worth of work.

When I got home, I focused on graphics and social media posts for Project Reclamation. But when I sat down to work on this week’s FSU email, the document was gone.

It was saved to my desktop. It is no longer on my desktop.

I searched for about an hour in every folder, every drive. Even Dropbox and Google Drive folders, just in case. (Yes, I used Finder. Many times. So. Many. Times.)

It’s just gone. No trace of it ever existing.

And I would think that maybe it just didn’t save at all, but I had it open and worked on it multiple times. So…it did save at one point.

“They” (whoever/whatever that means) gave me back my rings but took my work.

*Side note, as I’ve been typing this New Orleans part, the light outside my office — like, literally outside — has been doing weird shit. It’s 11:45 am. Broad daylight. Sunny skies. And the light coming in from the windows has vanished multiple times, for about one second at a time. (Yes, I know how clouds work.)

Each of these incidents in isolation? Fine. Not much more than a blip on the radar. But all together? Weird shit, y’all. Weird shit. Not QUITE as weird as the theater or the cave. But still weird.

If you feel so inclined, I’d love to hear stories of your own experiences with weird shit. What spookiness have you encountered? ‘Tis the season, after all. So tell me!

Keli Jackson 10/13/23 Keli Jackson 10/13/23

Welcome to Fck Sht Up Fridays!

Happy Friday, lovely! It’s time to fuck some shit up!

Why? Because I want to combine everything in my varied background into one place to offer my highest and greatest good to you. Take what resonates. Leave the rest.

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Wanna know one of the best ways to improve your sex life? Use a good lube. Seriously. Wetter sex is better sex. (Is there a limit to this? Sure. Are there those who over-lubricate? Yes. In general, though, this is a truth of the world to accept.)

This has nothing to do with your age, nor does it mean anything negative about your body. Lube is your friend. It can increase pleasure while decreasing pain. I mean, dry-on-dry friction can lead to tears, fissures, and just general OUCH! You deserve better.

My recommendations: water-based for vaginal play (external or penetrative) and silicone for anal play or shower sex. (Silicone neither absorbs nor dissipates in water.) If you’re into warming or cooling sensations, great! Not necessary, though. Stay away from flavors and fragrances if you’re sensitive to them, which is super common. (Can you take a scented bubble bath without getting a yeast infection? No? Then you fall into this category.)

Petroleum will dry out your genital tissues (and also break down condoms and toys), so vaseline and baby oil? No. Vegetable oils can linger around on the surface of your internal tissues, allowing bacteria to form underneath. So no olive oil or whatever, either.

And if you’ve used a big-name brand in the past and absolutely hated it? Just know that good marketing doesn’t necessarily make a good product.

If you’re looking for a good lube, you *can* shop at the link above. Two other brands I endorse because they’re excellent products: Sliquid and Jo. 🔥

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When was the last time you released your jaw?

OH! Never? Cool. Let’s do that.

Jaw tension is one of the biggest complaints I used to get from massage clients on my table. And it’s not really something we tend to think about when we consider stretching. That’s usually relegated to hamstrings, low backs, maybe necks. But jaws?

Generally, jaw clenching is habitual. If you’re a jaw clencher, pay attention over the next few days and notice if there’s a time you tend to clench. (I find it’s often during times we sort of disconnect from our bodies - driving, scrolling, sitting behind a computer.) When you become aware of the habit, you can pre-empt the clenching by keeping your jaw slightly open.

But how do you release the tension that has been built up by habitual clenching? By stretching the external muscles that clench and strengthening the internal muscles that run in the opposite direction. And to do that, stick your bottom teeth out over your top teeth. Jut your jaw forward in an underbite position. Clench that way.

The muscles on the outside of your jaw run vertically. Clenching tightens those muscles, kinda like flexing your biceps. The underbite clench elongates those muscles while tightening the muscles that run horizontally, which is then like straightening your arms - elongating your biceps while tightening your triceps.

Do this any time your jaw feels tight. Hold it for a few seconds. It’ll likely be pretty uncomfortable to do at first, and your jaw will get tired quickly. Over time, though, you’ll be able to hold it longer as your jaw tension releases. 30-90 seconds 3x a day (or more, if you need it) can be helpful until you notice that tension isn’t contributing to headaches or causing other facial pain any longer. Then use this stretch as needed. 💖

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SAAAAALLLESSS. That’s an icky word for a lot of folks. There’s a common misconception that in order to be good at sales, you have to be good at manipulation.

I say fuck that.

Dude-bro marketing and sales schmexperts (regardless of gender) may hock formulas and scripts. And a LOT of business coaches will talk about marketing and sales as if they’re the same thing. So they’ll teach some sort of marketing tactics and make you think those will directly translate to sales.

But here’s the thing: marketing and sales are very different things with very different skill sets and very different purposes.

Marketing is offering your brilliance for free. Sales is asking people to pay for it. (That can be with time or money. You still have to sell your freebies.)

Marketing is your social media posts. Sales is the copy on your landing pages and ads and your consult calls.

Marketing is building an audience. Sales is making offers.

And while a lot of folks (especially those socialized as women) are okay with marketing because it feels like “giving,” which is generous and lovely, those same folks tend to be squicked out by sales because they think of it as “taking,” which is selfish and terrible. (🙄 This is all patriarchal bullshit, btw.)

To build a business, you have to get good at both marketing and sales. Doing well with one but not the other will set you off balance, and your business will not grow. Anyone telling you otherwise is lying to you. 💸

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This week, I’m offering you a new moon ritual to hand you a little piece of that.

NEW MOON RITUAL

Supplies: paper, pen, glass of water that you’ll drink

Steps:

Take a few minutes and ground yourself, whatever that means to you – whether that’s a few deep breaths, listening to a guided meditation, washing your face, putting your feet in the grass, masturbating, or anything else.
Write out what it is you want to create, achieve, or accomplish. This can be big or small. It can be for the lunar cycle beginning with this new moon, the next 6 months, the next calendar year, or a lifelong dream.
Read what you’ve written—out loud—over your glass of water. Then drink the water.

It’s Friday the 13th, and tomorrow we have a new moon AND a solar eclipse. 😳 That’s a lot of spooky vibes, given that we’re in October, eh?

But here’s the deal: Historically, Friday the 13th as “unlucky” is relatively new. It has its roots in Norse and Christian mythology with the number 13 (Loki crashed a banquet and became the 13th god in attendance, then bad shit went down; Judas, as the 13th disciple, betrayed Jesus). But Friday the 13th being a day of misfortune only came about in the 19th century. And even then, it was primarily relegated to Victorian England and Ireland. Italy deems Friday the 17th as the unlucky day, and in Greece and Spain, it’s Tuesday the 13th.

Aside from that, there are also historical ties to Friday the 13th being a day of luck and protection through matriarchal and goddess-worshiping traditions. Friday is known as the day of the goddess – named after Frigg (Norse sky goddess of love and motherhood, protector of homes and families) and/or Freyja (goddess of love, fertility, and war) or Venus, depending on the language.

The number 13 was often seen as beneficial and abundant due to there being 13 lunar (therefore, fertility) cycles per year.

And this doesn’t even touch the histories across other parts of the world! So the idea that Friday the 13th just IS an unlucky day? 🤷‍♀️ I don’t subscribe to that. You can unsubscribe from it, too.

With regard to tomorrow’s new moon: because this is an eclipse, the witchy community will advise against rituals and spell-casting. They say the energies are wonky and unpredictable. I use ritualized practices as a form of self-care, as I do all spirituality. I use it to connect deeper with myself. And what energies may or may not be wonky or unpredictable…I will leave that up to you to decide.

Take the ritual or leave it (always, but especially) this month. Make your own decisions. I trust you to do what’s best for you. 💕 If you want to start connecting with the lunar cycles and also not test the energies, you can always do the written part in step 2 and skip the rest. ✨

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Last week. That Speaker of the House fiasco. What the actual fuck? 🤯 What is the Republican party even DOING?! I mean, come on. Do I think Kevin McCarthy is a good leader? No. No, I don’t. (Do I think there are better alternatives within the party? 🤦‍♀️ Probably also no. Though, admittedly, I am not SUPER well-versed on every single one of the Republican House members. So I’m open to a slight maybe here.)

Was this a week ago? Yes. Is it still mind-boggling? YES! And in considering allll the folks we could include here, my answer to “Who are we hexing?” this week has got to go to Matt Gaetz. His politics are some of the most egregious, and he’s a fucking sexual predator.

So this week, we’re hexing Matt Gaetz. Who else needs to be on this list?

*This segment is not intended to promote harm to anyone in any way. I don’t hex people in real life. ✊

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That’s it for this week, lovely! I appreciate you offering me space in your day. And I look forward to seeing you fuck some shit up today! ❤️‍🔥

-xoxo-

Keli

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